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  • tobogganablaze@lemmus.orgtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldWas he (51M) just helping me (26F)?
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    60 minutes ago

    Everything. You looking at him, him noticeing. Then he starts paying more attention to you, takes you on a ride home. You’re not winning any writing awards with that post, but it seems quite clear to me.

    Also you’re 25 years younger … there just is a very high statistical chance that he’d be interested unless you’re like super disfigured. Men are stupid.


  • On the day of my driving test he caught me looking at him twice, from across the place. He seemed surprised for a sec and then nodded to me both times.

    You say he “caught” you looking. That implies you were already aware that you were responsible for it. Or at least you think you were. And you might be right.

    But men can also be really stupid in this regard, so it might be conincident. I don’t know, it’s a very unique situation and I wasn’t there.

    As long as you are confident that what you told here is roughly what happened, then I’m certain that he’s interested.



  • tobogganablaze@lemmus.orgtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldWas he (51M) just helping me (26F)?
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    It’s really not, because you’re not describing a problem that you need help with. So I have no idea what “helping you” means in that case.

    Was he literally “protecting” you so you “could avoid traffic and stuff”? Of course not. He very clearly aranged it so that you have some 1on1 time together. At least that’s the obvious conclusion from how you tell the story.

    So the real question is, what kind of crush do you have on him? Was it a secret crush and he accidently picked up on it and now it’s weird? Or are you interested?

    You don’t expand on what happened afterwards, but it seems like he was just akward and dropped you off at home. So nothing inapproripate happend I assume (apart from the ethical concern of re-arranging test schedules for personal reason).



  • What do you mean why? YOU just explained it to me.

    You said you would tell someone their beautiful, not because they actually are, but because you’re regonize that they put in effort. That’s insincere.

    You said you should tell random people on the bus (most of them will be very average looking) that they are beautiful, because you want to make them feel better. It doesn’t get much more insincere than that.

    Also, there is no problem because guys randomly complimenting each other isn’t a widespread thing in the real world. And in my book that’s a good thing. There is already enough lying and disconnect from reality in the world.



  • Well, if very much the exact opposite for me. I really don’t understand why you would care about how other people look unless there is physical attraction. Telling someone that they look good without any physical attraction seems very insincere to me. Like, why do you care how I look like if you have no interest? It’s just weird.

    Now I do agree there are some exceptions for extreme cases. I can look at Ryan Gosling and it’s hard to ignore that he is a very beautiful/handsome man. But I still wouldn’t tell HIM that. First of all, he knows and second, for what purpose? I’m not really interested, he isn’t interessted. It would be a weird thing to say.












  • The reasoning is that drives are produced and shipped in batches and if you order multiple at onces there is a higher chance you’ll get drives from the same batch. If that batch had some fault during production or it was damaged during shipping, all your drives might be affected.

    I don’t have a source, but it’s something multiple expirenced people have mentioned to me.