If the other person can’t follow your train of thought, it can feel as though the emotional and cognitive connection/trust that was built in the conversation was abandoned along with the previous context. This can happen when there is a non-trivial jump in context between ideas.

Steering the conversation can be done by introducing intermediary steps that are connected to the previous topic in a self-evident way. This maintains that cognitive and emotional connection/trust because you are showing that you value the other person’s understanding and participation.

Figuring out what “non-trivial” or “self-evident” means is probably the hard part but you’d probably want to consider each step in, for example:

Grass, meadow, forest, tree, timber, log truck, mill, paper, exports, shipping dock, ocean, ice caps, ice bergs, titantic, James Cameron, Michael bay, transformers.

You could probably go from each one to the next trivially, steering the conversation from grass to meadow and so on through the list. But to go from grass to transformers without intermediate ideas truly makes absolutely no sense.

If my politicians actually screamed at each other and disrupted the process rather than peacefully resigning to fascism then i might feel like they give a shit for once.

Or assuming you also have no energy, are completely unbound by these prefects; floating in blissful oblivion.

Preach!

That’s the beauty of it. We contract all the rail rights and rolling stock out to the highest bidder. Then the free market pressure ensures the customer has the best price. The city can cover maintenance costs, of course!

Sticker would be so much better… I think I need a label maker now 🤣

Compression so garbage can’t tell if it’s from ps or a label maker sticker.

Gen alpha are preteens, give them few years 🤣

I have a set of values:

• Be social
• Seek autonomy
• Give solidarity
• Live in community
• Be healthy
• Have a clean home
• Work is to support other values, it’s not a value itself

And so on…

The choice i make is the one that aligns best with my values. If i have time to think that is. Otherwise my subconscious picks it’s own weights.

There’s a hierarchy to the values but they change in substance and position over time. That’s by design. Humans grow and change.

Circularity and contradiction? That’s fine. As long as it’s aligned with my values I know I’m unlikely to regret it.

CBT has its roots in stoicism but stoicism is definitely not a form of CBT.

Turns out back alleys make great health clinics!

The aphids have an oily layer that keeps them hydrated. The soap breaks this down and they dry out.

Of course! It’s just an ACT technique btw…

This seems to be working for me so far…

What are your values in life? To have a rich social life? To be healthy? To be successful at work? To have a clean, welcoming place?

Ok pick one small everyday change that aligns with one or many of those values. (E.g. do your dishes after you eat - aligns with clean house and social).

You could probably do this for a week or two. Keep framing it in terms of how it aligns with your values, and any success you’re having.

However, you’ll probably fail. That’s when we have to pay attention to emotions. Why did you stop? How do you feel about that? (Anxiety and simple distraction for me. It is mentally cheaper to ignore a task than overcome my anxiety until the task becomes the primary source. So my brain makes me forget to do the basic thing ahead of time. These add up when it’s literally EVERYTHING)

Now you can choose how to react. Do you simply need to keep trying? Do you need to reevaluate the tasks value proposition? Do you need to work on a higher value or lower cost task? In other words, how do i make my actions better aligned with my values such that it’s worth doing?

Now do the thing you chose. (This is the Bojack meme part)

I’m only a few weeks into this but it feels like I’ve unlocked a super power, i have nonzero motivation when I’m feeling up and i can at least point to the clean sink when I’m feeling down. Just having a thought process and decision framework where there was none before is huge! This is coming off YEARS of feeling hopeless and wandering onto the “not worth living side”. So while it’s still fresh and fragile, I’ll take a few weeks of hope at any rate.

Amazing how hard it is to express the TE in TERF is an absolute.

Instructions unclear. I read maximum ACAB.

Also fridge at home gets less gas exchange than open air fridge at supermarket so the ethylene builds up and your fruits turbo-ripen to mush.

Right! But those are the same thing as number of coils is the spring length divided by a geometric constant. At free length there is no strain. At compression you reach max strain/torsion. Each coil turn, assuming all are equal, adds equally to the sum of restoring force. Looking at spring free length you’re just paying attention to the summed forces of the active coils.

The dead coils contribute negligibly because they would need to impinge the neighboring wire to deform. (Relegated to pure torsion) Which i think is basically what you were saying…

I guess unit cost is going to be pretty levelled at those quantities…

I’ve only really worked with smaller batches so it’s just a bit of a shocking concept.