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Cake day: October 25th, 2023

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  • I was skating at the local ice rink, and tripped. I think it was an Olympic-sized rink, but that might have been the pool… it was pretty big, anyway. I bounced my head off the ice so hard I saw blue and red fireworks (only time that’s ever happened to me), and slid half the length of the rink on my face wherein I crashed into the barrier. That shit hurt, I still remember it vividly 30 years later, but luckily nothing broken. My mum was simultaneously aghast, and relieved and amazed I wasn’t more injured. She was convinced I’d have fractured something in my face when she saw me fall.


  • voracitude@lemmy.worldtoReprieve@lemmy.zipA letter to a friend…
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    Hey friend. You sound like a caring dude, full of love for your family. I’m sorry you’re going through this, a few months is very recent. Ten years is about how long my marriage went too, though she and I didn’t have kids (and I ended up moving back to the other side of the world) so it was a much cleaner break; and it still took me years to recover. I went through a series of bad relationships because I didn’t wait to work on myself first, and I got emotionally abused as a result. First silver lining: you still have the chance to avoid that mistake.

    This feeling sucks, I know, but you know your boys love you so you’ve done a good job as a dad. My new wife and I both have bad relationships with our fathers (though not for lack of trying on our parts), so make no mistake: you could have done worse, and your boys are lucky to have you.

    It sounds like you’ve forgotten how to live as you, without your family around to carry for. Is there anything social to do in your area, aligned with your interests, that could bring you some community? For example my (again, new) wife and I have each other, but we’re in a strange state with no family or friends within 1000 miles in any direction. We recently decided to find an improv class because we both want to work on the skills it teaches, but our main goal is to make some new friends.

    I just thought, as well - at least one of your kids plays games a lot, which is a golden opportunity to spend time with him. Maybe you can get a game going? Some of my best memories with my dad are of playing games together when I was little. I still have a soft spot for Gauntlet Legends on the N64 from the hours we spent playing that. Loads of great games to play together, too, in 2025 - hit me up if you need suggestions (⁠☞゚⁠ヮ゚⁠)⁠☞

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  • I do! I was developing pretty bad RSI from my traditional keyboard/mouse setup so I got:

    For me, the keyboard was the fix for my wrists. The vertical mouse didn’t help at all and was much more frustrating to use than my Deathadder because clicking now jiggles the cursor a bit (because the force of the click is now sideways, rather than down into the desk). However, it did help a lot when I started getting elbow pain from the regular mouse. Of course, I later discovered that it was just transferring the strain from my elbow up to my shoulder, once that started to hurt…

    Nowadays I’m just back on my exercise plan, and nothing hurts anymore 🙌 Obviously working out won’t fix wrists though. If I recall right you’re using Colemak on a regular board for your wrists? May be time to try the “full swoop” or whatever the style of the Kinesis is called. Or if I misremember and you’re already using an ergo board, I hope the vertical mouse helps!









  • Network-attached storage is pretty proscriptive for what these machines actually do nowadays. Especially the home ones like this, tend to end up pulling multiple duties like media server, homelab, etc. Heck, a dedicated resource for local AI projects is a use case I built into my custom-built NAS using an old 2080 I had laying around after an upgrade, precisely because I want to be able to use my desktop for other stuff while the model is running.