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  • I’m 48. I’m going to expend many of you here are white men much younger than me.

    Some words if advice.

    1. Have kids young. You will never be ready. There is an old expression, “In for a penny. In for a pound.”. Either you like the idea of kids or not. If you do, don’t wait just do it.

    2. Romance. African women are 🥰. If they’re part of the Diaspora and like me you tend to be more if an introvert the juxtaposition can work amazing.

    3. Don’t forget the forest for the trees. Yes the world is on fire. Yes things are increasingly bleak and hopeless. Enjoy life. You have family and friends and they are still important and mean something. Cherish that.

    4. Everyone makes mistakes. What’s important is do you learn from them and how do you recover?

    5. Comparison is the thief of joy.

    6. Be different. Be contrary. Challenge. If everyone jumps turn around and look at the person telling you to jump but don’t do it blindly.








  • My honest opinion. The right pipeline is meeting boys where they are. The left needs to stop pontificating about shit and get on their level.

    It’s no different than the fact that the education system as it’s been designed is easier for girls to navigate than boys. Look at post-secondary attendance by gender over time.

    This is a problem that has been brewing for decades and we have done nothing to stop it and the right wing despite all their faults are actually engaging these boys where they are.

    If you are a parent. Hell if you are a mother, you should be scared as shit at how your sons are checking out of society writ large.

    I’m a 48 year old dude with 3 kids. My daughter will be fine. My boys on the other hand? I’m doing my best to make sure they’re adjusted and successful but it’s exceedingly hard.


  • Meh it’s all semantics. I consider myself middle class and I make almost 200$k a year. I have more in common with the homeless guy at the go train station than I do with the CIO of my company.

    I wish more people were this way. It’s why I still prefer taking public transit. It grounds me. I’d rather be around people struggling to get by than those who have never known what it’s like to put hotdogs in your mac & cheese.

    Edit - and to people going I’m rich. Im divorced and have 3 kids of which 2 are on the spectrum. I am living comfortably but if I lost my job I’m in the same boat or worse than some of you. I live modestly and do more than anyone may think to support as many people as I can.