Hey Folks!
I’ve been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19€ bill? Here’s a 20, keep this change.
Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there’s a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don’t know how much has changed in this regard.
The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.
So will AITA if I don’t tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?
Others have answered the question, but I did want to mention - many people mention that tips are important because employees can be paid below minimum wage, but this varies state by state, and in my experience tipping is standard regardless of this.
Here’s a table of minimum wage by state:
https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/state/minimum-wage/tipped
The “Minimum Cash Wage” column is the “tipped” minimum wage - this is what employers can pay for jobs that get tips. The “Basic Combined Cash & Tip Minimum Wage Rate” is the minimum wage for non-tipped jobs, as well as the minimum a tipped employee must receive in wage plus tips - if they don’t make enough tips, legally the employer must pay the difference.
So for example, in Washington state where I am, the minimum wage is $15.74 whether you’re tipped or not, but it’s still considered rude not to tip, and 20% is still the standard “good” tip.
Thanks for this! I’ll be in CA, seems like they’re getting minimum wage plus tips. At least a step in the right direction towards fair pay.