• rimjob_rainer
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    11 months ago

    Meanwhile my contacts are waiting 12h on average for an answer from me. Just keep the expectations low and nobody will expect immediate answers.

    • DillyDaily@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      Litteraly everyone I know will call me for questions that could easily be a text because they know that on average it takes me 2 days to reply - and that’s if I reply at all!

      My phone calls are all 5 seconds or less “hey Dilly, are you free Saturday for lunch at ours?” “yeah sounds good” “okay bye”

      Saturday is 5 days away, could that have been a text? Yes. But I probably would have only seen it on Sunday if they’d texted me.

      • LwL@lemmy.world
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        10 months ago

        If people did this I’d just go back to muting calls too, at least from those not respecting it… I’ve clearly established to use calls only if it’s important, and if I miss it I will call back asap. Honestly I think the only way you can get them to stop is by ignoring them.

        • DillyDaily@lemmy.world
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          10 months ago

          Oh, I think I miscommunicated. I like receiving calls. If someone wants to ask me a question and talk to me, they can physically talk to me, instead of texting me and demanding the same level of attention from a text as they would expect from a real time conversation.

          If they call and I don’t answer they know I’m busy and to try again later. If I call and do answer, it’s easy to say “hey, I gotta make this quick” or “I’m not doing anything, let’s have a chat” which is harder to do via text. It makes it easier to lay out the expectation for the interaction. If someone is texting me thinking we’re going to be having a long text based chat like we’re both sitting down in a live chat forum for the evening, but I’m busy and only occasionally looking at my phone because I don’t treat text like it’s AOL/MSN/IM, we’re going to have a bad time. But if they call me, then it’s just easier.

      • TJA!@sh.itjust.works
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        10 months ago

        Yeah, my phone is muted. If people call me I’ll probably only see the missed call notification