• rimjob_rainer
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    2 年前

    Meanwhile my contacts are waiting 12h on average for an answer from me. Just keep the expectations low and nobody will expect immediate answers.

    • DillyDaily@lemmy.world
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      Litteraly everyone I know will call me for questions that could easily be a text because they know that on average it takes me 2 days to reply - and that’s if I reply at all!

      My phone calls are all 5 seconds or less “hey Dilly, are you free Saturday for lunch at ours?” “yeah sounds good” “okay bye”

      Saturday is 5 days away, could that have been a text? Yes. But I probably would have only seen it on Sunday if they’d texted me.

      • LwL@lemmy.world
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        2 年前

        If people did this I’d just go back to muting calls too, at least from those not respecting it… I’ve clearly established to use calls only if it’s important, and if I miss it I will call back asap. Honestly I think the only way you can get them to stop is by ignoring them.

        • DillyDaily@lemmy.world
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          Oh, I think I miscommunicated. I like receiving calls. If someone wants to ask me a question and talk to me, they can physically talk to me, instead of texting me and demanding the same level of attention from a text as they would expect from a real time conversation.

          If they call and I don’t answer they know I’m busy and to try again later. If I call and do answer, it’s easy to say “hey, I gotta make this quick” or “I’m not doing anything, let’s have a chat” which is harder to do via text. It makes it easier to lay out the expectation for the interaction. If someone is texting me thinking we’re going to be having a long text based chat like we’re both sitting down in a live chat forum for the evening, but I’m busy and only occasionally looking at my phone because I don’t treat text like it’s AOL/MSN/IM, we’re going to have a bad time. But if they call me, then it’s just easier.

      • TJA!@sh.itjust.works
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        Yeah, my phone is muted. If people call me I’ll probably only see the missed call notification