hey bros, i’ve been a lurker on lemmy ever since the silly reddit API thing happened, and i think this is my first post?? anyway, there’s this guy on my high school’s robotics team that i really like. i should mention that this is a private christian school in oklahoma which is why i’m making this post in the first place. im unsure if this guy is really straight though. you see, he goes out of his way to see only me. maybe he’s just a really great friend who wants to see me, maybe not. but also the night before our state competition, he uh, let me sit on his lap and later on he uh…spooned me for a solid 2 minutes after the other guy in our airbnb we were staying at for the night fell asleep. he kinda played it off at the end like he was messing with me and maybe he was but i’m not sure. there’s some other stuff too like the way he talks to me. he doesn’t talk the same way to anyone else. i really want to ask him out but im just really worried how he’ll take it. pretty much all the guys at my school except a handful of them are homophobic…
oh yeah in case any of you are curious, im the programmer for the team and he’s one of the builders
I’m hesitant to say anything because I’m assuming both of you are minors but dude, come on… my HS experience wouldn’t been a lot less confusing if I had guys openly spooning me lol
we’re both seniors (18) but yeah you definitely have a point tho. i should probably ask him soon…
Me and my first boyfriend didn’t start dating until the last semester of HS, dispite years of flirting with each other. We were too embarrassed to do anything because we were afraid of what the other kids would say about us (this wasn’t that long ago but was in the South). I think that attitude of “fuck it, school’s almost over. Were adults now, etc.,” that a lot of seniors get might help you. Best of luck ♥️
The signs appear to be there. At the very least he’s open enough where even if it were nothing I don’t think it’d be a big deal. As a straight guy I would assume he’s coming onto me.
Go for it. You’ve only got a few months left anyway.
You’ll be up at night years later thinking “what if” if you don’t go for it. If you do go for it and it fails, it will only matter for like 3 months.
If he is in such a homophobic environment, I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. Don’t start with “Hey, wanna go on a date with me?”. Maybe do instead “Hey, do you want to go for a run with me?”. And just go from there. Or maybe just go straight for the date idea… I don’t know… You are the best and only person to know the right way to go about it.
Regarding the interest. The dude is spooning you and you sit on his lap and all that. I think it is fair to say that there is some interest there.
I’d honestly just start setting up increasing amounts of one on one time with him. Slowly but surely the tension should build and then one of y’all will inevitably make a move.
hey everyone who’s commented. thanks for the advice! it really means a lot to me
Any news on this OP? I am interested in knowing about the outcome!
i wish i did have some news, man. i’ve never found a good time to tell him. even so, im so worried he won’t want to be friends with me anymore if he does turn out to be homophobic
Is the bromance still going though?
I’m starting to think there wasn’t one to begin with… I’ve been talking about this to a close friend of his, and he said that he does gay things sometimes but isn’t gay.
That is complicated… Maybe he is, maybe he is not. Just be his friend and see how it goes. Be safe bro.
Any updates, OP? I’m curious to know now that it’s been a month. I hope everything went well between you two.
