Hi, I’m the total mess known as Emma, and I’m currently a little overwhelmed with things.

So, long story short:

  • I started HRT January 2023

  • I desperately need bottom surgery as soon as possible

  • I’m worried that I should have been doing electrolysis instead of laser

  • I’m worried about wait lists for surgery

  • I’m worried about the costs of surgery

  • I need to find a surgeon

  • I’m interested in evacuating to a safe state on the west coast

  • I feel overwhelmed with everything that I need to do

There’s so much going on for me right now, and I’m seeking input from everyone here with something to say about any of my struggles.

Thanks ❤️

  • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 months ago

    Hey 👋

    I started HRT Nov of 2015 at 17 and just got my SRS a month ago.

    As soon as possible

    Unless you have fuck loads of cash I’d say settle in for the long haul and cope, I’ve never heard of SRS costing less than £20k and that’s for basic old school PI in the UK.

    Even with a full time job for years at software dev with an MSc I never managed to save anywhere close to that with the pandemic hitting as I entered the workforce, unless you’re like some boomer with a house? I take it you’re in the US? Is there insurance that covers it maybe?

    As for surgeons check out the /r/Transgender_surgeries wiki.

    Laser, you mean on face or genitalia? For face do Laser for now while you’re early in transition and try to zap away as much as possible. I stopped because I thought it’d be good enough and was broke, big mistake as years later my hair came back but now it was blonde and required electro, which takes forever, just some stubborn bits on neck have taken me over 2 years for now and it still doesn’t feel gone, just more sparse.

    For genitalia you need electrolysis as laser is not permanent, but I wouldn’t rush into that as most people don’t need any hair removal prior to SRS, I had totally normal amount of pubes even well along the shaft and the follicle scrape took care of everything and I got no hairs inside, I woke up with most of my pubes intact to my shock even, I’m in the UK and I wasn’t circumsized so YMMV.

    • -Emma-@fedia.ioOP
      1·
      2 months ago

      Unless you have fuck loads of cash I’d say settle in for the long haul and cope,

      😢

      unless you’re like some boomer with a house?

      😢

      I take it you’re in the US?

      yeah, in the deep south 😢

      Is there insurance that covers it maybe?

      😢

      Laser, you mean on face or genitalia?

      everywhere. i’m pretty much done with face now and have been focusing on genital region. i’ll be doing electro of remaining light facial hairs soon.

      i’ve learned some good info from this thread, that laser isn’t technically necessary, that electro is also not technicaly necessary, and idk. i’ve already paid for several sessions, so i’m gonna get 'em done and take it from there.

      i wish this were easier. i wish that i could just push the button. i wish it didn’t have to be this way.

      thank you for your reply ❤️