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Joined 1 year ago
Cake day: January 2nd, 2023


  • There are two types of people that use slurs to talk about other folk.

    The first group is made up of folk who don’t give a fuck if they’re hurting others.

    The second group is made up of folk who don’t realise the slur is a slur or don’t understand why the slur is harmful.

    The second group appreciates being informed about the consequences of their words so they can change course.

    People in the first group that are pretending they’re in the second group get angry when called out. But they were always the first group.

  • I’m pretty old and I’ve “completed” my transition, and I’m always happy to share my experiences or knowledge if people are interested.

    Twinsies :)

    But as GarfGirl has mentioned, if you’ve got a matrix account, I co-admin a matrix space that might be of interest. It’s not as convenient as discord, but, it’s decentralised and federated, and not hosted by a corporation driven by profit above everything else. So if that stuff is important to you, you’re welcome to give it a try

  • I scored the highest tertiary entrance rank in my school without studying a day in my life and had my pick of any university course or career. I went to university, and excelled at exams, but because I had undiagnosed ADHD and had never learned time management, I couldn’t cope with assignments that couldn’t be thrown together at the last minute in my lunch break. I was academically excluded.

    So there was that. Basically, my life has continued to look like some variation of that experience since then :P

  • My birthname was a combination of my mum and my dads name. It was unique, but still read masculine. So I tried to combine my parents names in a way that read feminine, but couldn’t find a way of doing it.

    So, I had a backup name, Danica. But it didn’t fit me when I tried it on

    So, I tried a second backup name, Cadance. It didn’t fit either.

    So I gave up, and turned to a list of names online that I found. I didn’t get very far though. I stumbled across Ada in that list, and I knew that was me.