(Content warning, discussions of SA and misogyny, mods I might mention politics a bit but I hope this can be taken outside the context of politics and understood as a discussion of basic human decency)
We all know how awful Reddit was when a user mentioned their gender. Immediate harassment, DMs, etc. It’s probably improved over the years? But still awful.
Until recently, Lemmy was the most progressive and supportive of basic human dignity of communities I had ever followed. I have always known this was a majority male platform, but I have been relatively pleased to see that positive expressions of masculinity have won out.
All of that changed with the recent “bear vs man” debacle. I saw women get shouted down just for expressing their stories of being sexually abused, repeatedly harassed, dogpiled, and brigaded with downvotes. Some of them held their ground, for which I am proud of them, but others I saw driven to delete their entire accounts, presumably not to return.
And I get it. The bear thing is controversial; we can all agree on this. But that should never have resulted in this level of toxicity!
I am hoping by making this post I can kind of bring awareness to this weakness, so that we can learn and grow as a community. We need to hold one another accountable for this, or the gender gap on this site is just going to get worse.
Once again, you ignore anything of actual substance. The civility rules are inequitable. Enforcing them makes you a shit person. You have no rebuttal or defense for this so you try to focus on other things, but I think at this point you just know I’m right.
Once again, insulting me will not make your lie true.
Enforcing shitty rules makes you a shit person. That’s an accurate description. You continue to admit through your silence on the matter that the rules are unfair, and you benefit from them.
You’re not engaging on the topic because you know I’m right.
And yet it is still a lie that I bragged about being “such a good guy.”
No amount of aggression, insults or berating posts will make that true. You can say whatever you like to me and that still won’t be true. It’s a lie. It’s not my fault you lied.
I never quoted you, I am pulling out the substance of your argument here:
This is definitely flaunting, and definitely using your mod status to make you out to be a good person.
I fucking hate you for going into this stupid pedantic argument. This is what you always do. Literally always. I won’t be continuing with this line anymore, I have quoted you directly and there is nothing more to say. Fucking tool.
You have nothing to say about civility rules? You can’t defend yourself at all? You are okay with knowing you are upholding rules that silence minority opinions and rightfully angry individuals? How long can you ignore the topic?
Not once have you meaningfuly engaged with what I have been telling you. You are unable to because it threatens your sense of power.
No it isn’t. Both of those things are lies. I will not address anything else you have to say while you continue to lie about me.
I do not, and have never claimed to be, a good person. That is not my call. My only claim is that I do my job as a moderator well enough that I keep being asked to moderate more channels, so maybe I’m not as bad a moderator as they claim.
Again for the people in the back row:
I do not, and have never claimed to be, a good person.
Now, are you going to stop lying? Because until you do, I will not address anything you said.
lmao you’re so lost in the sauce you’re just like , “yeah I’m not a good person”. okay.
So you still won’t acknowledge that it’s a lie that I bragged about being a “really good person.” Even though when I explicitly say twice that it is nothing I have ever claimed to be in my entire life.
I guess you don’t want me to discuss your points after all. Weird that you keep complaining that I won’t discuss them.
You just admitted you’re not a good person, what more is there to say? My whole argument was that you’re a shitty person for enforcing these civility rules.