• Corhen@lemmy.world
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    Me and my spouse go out on a date, we walk into the store holding hands, play footsy while ordering, share a dessert, and have a good kiss or two before walking out.

    How do you propose that no one knows what my sexual preference is in that situation?

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      That’s a situation where you are (intimate) with your partner. I was talking about situations where you are alone on the street… there is no reason why another person should be able to guess what your sexual preferences are.

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        You heard it here folks, no kissing no holding hands on the street. No not even you straighties, keep it in your home!

        Sexual preferences stupid

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          Straight folks take their kids out in public and shove it in everyone’s face that they had heterosexual intercourse to make them. Bunch of sickos!

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          That’s not even what I said… I said that if you are alone (i.e. not with your partner, doing obvious partner activities) how would anyone even know that you are gay?

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            They are doing an activity that a straight person would do (i.e. hang out with a partner) and judged differently.

            In an ideal world, you would be right. Heck, you can hold hands, hug, kiss anyone and not be gay! But doing those activities for people that look gay attracts negative attention. People with non-conforming appearances get judged differently. Girl with short hair? Guy with long hair? Guy wearing a dress? These are completely normal things for certain presenting genders that I have seen called slurs.

            Regardless, have fun moving the goal posts again.

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              Girl with short hair? Guy with long hair? Guy wearing a dress?

              So you are not actually being harassed for your sexual preferences, but for dressing unconventionally…

              I’m ready to bet that two average / boring looking guys making out in public will get less harassment, than any guy with colorful hair walking in high heels or something.

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                  Just clarifying the strawman arguments that people are putting in my mouth…

                  Also how am I a bigot when I say that it’s totally fine for two men to kiss in public?

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            If you are an effeminate gay like my husband. People can tell right away no matter what he is doing and people will give him the stink eye or throw a slur his way.