“In the entire dataset, 29% of men said they never approached a woman in person before. 27% said it had been more than one year. This was larger for men in the age 18-25 group: 45% had never approached a woman in person,” according to the study.
A majority of single males surveyed reported fear as the main reason they do not approach women for dates in person. Fear of rejection and fear of social consequences were the two most common responses.
The data highlights a growing concern in the United States and abroad — loneliness. A 2023 report from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services found that almost half of U.S. adults report “measurable levels of loneliness.”
It’s interesting to say the least. It seems as though the social repercussions and rejection are the most profound reason. While the fear of rejection is easy enough to digest. But I think the fear or social consequences is a relatively new construct.
From what I understand it’s the fear of being viewed as a creep to approach a woman out of the blue. Which to me, is reasonable enough. But I don’t think I have ever heard my old man or anyone of his generation bringing this to the table.
Yet I do remember asking my friends about picking up hints and whether or not men are really that bad at it. And most them saying the just don’t want to risk misinterpreting it.
Perhaps there is an argument to be made that approaching women like this, has fallen out of social fashion. What do you guys think?
p.s. I hope this is casual enough of a conversation. I kinda screwed up my last one, I admit.
Edit: Here is a more detailed paper on the survey for those that are interested
I find most men approach women for sex. I think men need to learn to approach women for friendship.
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Your username says everything about this comment…
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It’s this kind of thinking that’s just creating a bigger divide between men and women. And I don’t know why you keep mentioning “it’s not like only men get benefits from sex” frankly it’s creepy. It reads like someone that’s never experienced a fulfilling queer platonic relationship.
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Did you even fucking read my first comment?
Men need to learn to appreciate women in their life for more than their bodies. Men need to learn to appreciate women that have skills. Men need to accept that some women are better than them at some skills.
Maybe you’d have some friends if you’d spend sometime overcoming that.
Mod stepping in. I’m suspecting the account you were talking to be a troll evading ban, as that account was only 5 hours old. I banned them for 3 days, sorry for that.
Thank you mod for saving me from the misogynist.
Most of the men I know have female friends. Not having at least one seems strange
It’s strange because it’s a red flag to other women to stay away from misogynistic bullshit like this.
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