People who haven’t really resumed socializing at levels they used to, people who lost the capacity to regulate during interpersonal interactions, people who lost trust in others… I encounter lots of partial returners out there

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    1 month ago

    Yeah. That’s me. Or anyone I know, really. Sure cities are back to pre-pandemic chaos, but those are other people.

    I choose to work from the office on most days. I use public transit. I go to the gym. I’m not locked in, but …

    • after-work drinks
    • meetups
    • catch up with a friend at the pub
    • date night
    • clubs
    • partys

    That’s a distant past. And i don’t miss it, really.

    Ok, I do miss socializing, the good parts: Crack some jokes, have some small-talk, feel part oof a group of friends.

    But i don’t miss it enough to endure that bad parts: Forcing oneselves into conversations with strangers, “networking”, drinking a beer alone in a corner of some event, going out to bar where over your overpriced drink you’ll accept that you’d rather be in your living room. Bars and night clubs are a weird concept (unless you are in your twenties and really enjoy the scene): You realistically only talk the person you came with, but they can’t hear what your are saying since it’s loud and crowded. There may be music, but unless you came to dance, you probably have a Spotify play list you’ll enjoy more. In better quality.