• Reddfugee42@lemmy.world
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    28 days ago

    How is disabled people safely and consensually experiencing a sexual existence not “normal and appropriate”?

    • Cris@lemmy.world
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      28 days ago

      I don’t actually know that I think it’s abnormal or inappropriate, I’m not really sure. But I thought it was saying they’d no longer be supported with sexual funtioning kinda issues related to their disability, like equipment or medication that makes improves sexual functioning. Those kinds of things are definitley reasonable, beyond a shadow of a doubt.

      I don’t live in Australia, so what I think is honestly irrelevant; your government doesn’t need to advocate for my interests. But I’m not really sure how I’d feel about policies making disability aid money available for the paying of prostitutes in my country (though prostitution isn’t legal here, and the puritanical US would never accept that changing). I don’t think prostitution is wrong, or that disabled people don’t need support in the ability to life healthy full lives.

      I guess I feel like I don’t know enough about the variety of disabilities to have any sort of informed stance. My first thought is just that people with disabilities are generally still perfectly capable of forming meaningful relationships where intimacy could happen, sans government provided prostitution. But like, that’s informed by a fairly limited perspective, there are a lot of disabilities and I can definitely see there being unforseen implications to familiar disabilities or disabilities I’m not aware of.

      I have a disability, and it does kinda impact my ability to build relationships in the same way that other people do (a circadian rhythm disorder, my sleep schedule is extremely isolating) and I would never expect the government to give me money to pay for prostitutes. But I’m also from the US, where there’s a very different relationship with the government than there is in most “developed” western countries (the culture being that the government should do as little as possible and everything people can do for themselves, they should. Though in practice it’s just pro corporation and anti-human) and where sex has historically be demonized FAR more than in other western “developed” countries.

      I could have communicated much more effectively in my first comment, but I did think the context and what I was responding to was an entirely different thing

      • violetring@lemmy.world
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        27 days ago

        It sounds like while your disability impacts your relationships, you are still physically capable of masturbating. There is a wide range of physical disabilities that can leave a person rather isolated outside of family, and incapable of physically “getting the job done”, while otherwise being healthy enough for sex/orgasms. So while you may have a great deal of trouble with forming relationships and meeting people, you are still able to experience the physical and mental relief of an orgasm. This is not attainable for everyone, and prostitutes can help in many of those situations.

        • Cris@lemmy.world
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          8 days ago

          Sorry for never replying, your comment gave me some things to think about and I ran out of emotional energy- just wanted to say thanks for engaging with me and sharing your thoughts

          Hope you have a lovely day friend