I apologize if I took your statement out of context. But where are we getting that “more people think one is okay and not the other?” And where in any of my responses have I said anything close to “pro women body shaming men?” I have said both are cruel and not appropriate and if any of my statements have come off as anything else, I again apologize because that was not, is not, and will never be my intention. I’m trying to say that it’s going on for both. I personally do not believe the claim that now it’s okay to make fun of men, nor would I agree with that if someone was arguing that. I’m trying to say that the issues men are facing when it comes to physical judgements are the same pressures women are also dealing with.
When it comes to the women’s magazine, I did not mean to imply that men need to read those magazines, nor that they are the ones making all articles(and while print may be dead, websites, TikTok, etc are still thriving), I brought it up because a lot of articles for women, print or otherwise, were focused on how to get men and make yourself attractive to men, not about actual women’s issues. And to think that men have no influence on the media that they often curated is naive, just as it would be to say women don’t affect it either. What men are attracted to has an affect on what articles for women tend to reflect, what women get on TV, and what women are allowed to be visible. Like the whole trend of “men don’t like - insert clothing item here-.” or men not liking heavy make up. All of them? No, but it did and does happen. Now, men are also getting the “this is what it takes to be a high value man” and they don’t like it. I wouldn’t not want them to like it or be silent while that happens. I can be anti body shaming if it only applies to some people.
Just because I don’t agree with you about men getting judged more frequently or harshly than women (because I think men are just now included in this particular fray) does not mean I agree with you being shamed, judged, etc.
Also, I live in the US. Don’t get me wrong, people absolutely do judge that, but not all, and you assuming that I think you’re compensating for something is incorrect. You’ve wrote thoughtful, amicable, responses to my comments and are clearly very passionate about the issue. You were not rude, you didn’t curse me out or degrade me. That is not the behavior I associate with someone trying to compensate, and I’m sorry that people have made you feel that way (myself included if I’ve done that to you). I am also sorry to come off that I think people being cruel or judgemental to men is okay because “women deal with it to.”
Body shaming of men in current year 2024 is more acceptable to society at large than body shaming of women in current year 2024, if you’re seriously denying that you’re not paying attention or are stuck on “but it used to be-” yet we’re talking about the current “2024” year that is the one we’re in. Literally just observe or try body shaming both for yourself (for science only lol) and find out, if someone calls body shaming men out here it was probably me lol.
What I’m saying is that “Woman fat” has become an unacceptable comment in 2024, while it may have been acceptable in the past, it no longer is at least largely, yet “man with truck have small peepee,” is still largely lauded as comedic genius in 2024. I’m saying “one go down but the other go up,” which you seem to actually agree with I think.
I’m also saying that public perception of body shaming depends on the gender shamed: When men are shamed for body related things like not enough hair, fat, small wiener, or short, the majority of responses are “funny” or “truu” or “slay,” yet when women are shamed for excess hair, fat, small titti, or tall, the comments are all “body positivity,” etc. This may be the part we disagree on, but we’ll just have to keep disagreeing lol.
I’m just trying to get to the point where it doesn’t matter what gender is body shamed, there’s some consistency applied to the “don’t make fun of people for what they can’t control” bit, if that’s the direction we’re moving in.
Honestly it seems like we may agree more than disagree.
I can agree with that. I don’t think people are used to having to take men’s feelings into consideration (with the body shaming or, like, anything to be fair) the same way they do with women, and are usually less empathetic to them because of that.
It was a pleasure discussing this with you, even if we disagree on some things. I think both of are hearts are in the right place, and I can’t be mad at that. And, next time, I hope to be in the comments with you to call it out too🤝🏾
I can agree with that as well. It was indeed nice discussing with you as well, all too often comments can get too heated and it’s always nice to have a regular ol’ pleasant conversation even when we disagree a bit lol. I hope to see you there with me too! :Handshake: (I hope that text I just typed becomes an emoji lol
I apologize if I took your statement out of context. But where are we getting that “more people think one is okay and not the other?” And where in any of my responses have I said anything close to “pro women body shaming men?” I have said both are cruel and not appropriate and if any of my statements have come off as anything else, I again apologize because that was not, is not, and will never be my intention. I’m trying to say that it’s going on for both. I personally do not believe the claim that now it’s okay to make fun of men, nor would I agree with that if someone was arguing that. I’m trying to say that the issues men are facing when it comes to physical judgements are the same pressures women are also dealing with.
When it comes to the women’s magazine, I did not mean to imply that men need to read those magazines, nor that they are the ones making all articles(and while print may be dead, websites, TikTok, etc are still thriving), I brought it up because a lot of articles for women, print or otherwise, were focused on how to get men and make yourself attractive to men, not about actual women’s issues. And to think that men have no influence on the media that they often curated is naive, just as it would be to say women don’t affect it either. What men are attracted to has an affect on what articles for women tend to reflect, what women get on TV, and what women are allowed to be visible. Like the whole trend of “men don’t like - insert clothing item here-.” or men not liking heavy make up. All of them? No, but it did and does happen. Now, men are also getting the “this is what it takes to be a high value man” and they don’t like it. I wouldn’t not want them to like it or be silent while that happens. I can be anti body shaming if it only applies to some people.
Just because I don’t agree with you about men getting judged more frequently or harshly than women (because I think men are just now included in this particular fray) does not mean I agree with you being shamed, judged, etc.
Also, I live in the US. Don’t get me wrong, people absolutely do judge that, but not all, and you assuming that I think you’re compensating for something is incorrect. You’ve wrote thoughtful, amicable, responses to my comments and are clearly very passionate about the issue. You were not rude, you didn’t curse me out or degrade me. That is not the behavior I associate with someone trying to compensate, and I’m sorry that people have made you feel that way (myself included if I’ve done that to you). I am also sorry to come off that I think people being cruel or judgemental to men is okay because “women deal with it to.”
Body shaming of men in current year 2024 is more acceptable to society at large than body shaming of women in current year 2024, if you’re seriously denying that you’re not paying attention or are stuck on “but it used to be-” yet we’re talking about the current “2024” year that is the one we’re in. Literally just observe or try body shaming both for yourself (for science only lol) and find out, if someone calls body shaming men out here it was probably me lol.
What I’m saying is that “Woman fat” has become an unacceptable comment in 2024, while it may have been acceptable in the past, it no longer is at least largely, yet “man with truck have small peepee,” is still largely lauded as comedic genius in 2024. I’m saying “one go down but the other go up,” which you seem to actually agree with I think.
I’m also saying that public perception of body shaming depends on the gender shamed: When men are shamed for body related things like not enough hair, fat, small wiener, or short, the majority of responses are “funny” or “truu” or “slay,” yet when women are shamed for excess hair, fat, small titti, or tall, the comments are all “body positivity,” etc. This may be the part we disagree on, but we’ll just have to keep disagreeing lol.
I’m just trying to get to the point where it doesn’t matter what gender is body shamed, there’s some consistency applied to the “don’t make fun of people for what they can’t control” bit, if that’s the direction we’re moving in.
Honestly it seems like we may agree more than disagree.
I can agree with that. I don’t think people are used to having to take men’s feelings into consideration (with the body shaming or, like, anything to be fair) the same way they do with women, and are usually less empathetic to them because of that.
It was a pleasure discussing this with you, even if we disagree on some things. I think both of are hearts are in the right place, and I can’t be mad at that. And, next time, I hope to be in the comments with you to call it out too🤝🏾
I can agree with that as well. It was indeed nice discussing with you as well, all too often comments can get too heated and it’s always nice to have a regular ol’ pleasant conversation even when we disagree a bit lol. I hope to see you there with me too! :Handshake: (I hope that text I just typed becomes an emoji lol
…nope! Oh well lol ykwim!)