• StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      7 hours ago

      The point isn’t that someone has a tiny dick. The point is that someone is trying to overcompensate their toxic masculinity to account for it. Its like when someone speeds in a huge car in the middle of the city centre.

      • Justin@lemmy.jlh.name
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        7 hours ago

        Well fair, but using toxic stereotypes, even ironically, doesn’t seem to be the way to dismantle that stereotype. It’s like if a woman made fun of a man for liking pegging, and I call her a whore. No one should value a person based on their genitals or how many people they sleep with.

      • hypna@lemmy.world
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        8 hours ago

        Perhaps he’s objecting to having the alleged hand gesture referred to as feminist. A bit of a quibble, but not completely baseless.

        Then again it may not be fair to claim that whenever feminists do hurtful things in the name of feminism, that it’s not real feminism. Feminism can do bad things too. Any philosophy can.

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          6 hours ago

          I feel like we’re kind of in the weeds here so I’m going to state my position openly. I’m a man who has been accused of having a small penis many times in life. I say this to communicate that I understand what it’s like to be accused of having a small penis and I get it.

          Any man who thinks that a pinching motion is unquestionably making fun of them for having a small penis with our out confirmation, needs to get help. That motion is done all the time by all genders for any particular reason. Any man who causes harm because someone said he has a small penis also needs help. If you need help and you don’t get help and continue to behave in antisocial manner, then you deserve to be made fun of. At a certain point, antisocial behavior needs to be handled.

          If a large enough group of men are being antisocial because of a pinching motion. I think it’s fine for feminists to make the pinching motion intentionally to cause insult. For women to have to just deal with the antisocial behavior and ignore it is not acceptable.

          My opinions would be the same if the genders would be reversed, so I feel like I’ve got a pretty solid argument here.

        • Justin@lemmy.jlh.name
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          7 hours ago

          Yes, this was my point, the idea of a gesture for someone’s penis size is not feminist, it is derogatory/toxic masculinity.

    • frunch@lemmy.world
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      10 hours ago

      But it was the way the characters hand was positioned! No commentary, just a picture in a trailer for a cutesy game

      The response is ridiculous, but not surprising

      • Justin@lemmy.jlh.name
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        7 hours ago

        Yeah, the response is absolutely unacceptable, I’m just commenting on the article using the term feminist incorrectly. Feminism is not about being derogatory against people with penises.

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        7 hours ago

        That’s a bit of a loaded term though. I do agree that it promotes toxic male stereotypes, yes.