I feel like there’s some statistical fuckery going on here. I feel like in a lot of super religious communities 2 is a lot, maybe 3 depending on how many youth pastors talked you into a blowie when you were 14. Versus in a lot of more liberal communities premarital sex and divorces are a lot more common. And those communities reproduce like fucking rabbits vs other communities are out here fucking a lot but only reproducing responsibly.
I’ve also wondered if a lot of the highly religious women I grew up with finding sex unpleasant or a chore is mostly just due to the sex being bad. If they won’t even tell you what a clitoris is, the men are literally taught that they’re owed it and they don’t need to bother making it pleasant, and then add in that (EDIT: LATE) masturbation in women is associated with inability to orgasm as an adult… best case scenario most of the experience is just one long chafing sensation. No wonder all the women I grew up with mostly just found the whole thing gross!
edit: lol my phone cut out the word late before masturbation and that completely changes the meaning of that sentence. What I meant to say is that studies show that if women don’t masturbate when they’re young they’re at much higher risk for anorgasmia later in life.
I’ve also wondered if a lot of the highly religious women I grew up with finding sex unpleasant or a chore is mostly just due to the sex being bad.
It has a lot to do with the guilt associated with premarital sex. I know a fundamentalist Christian woman who would get physically ill after going too far with her boyfriend, even though they still stopped before actual sex. Once she got married that went away.
A friend confided that, no matter how much he tried to not masturbate, he would always end up doing it and the guilt was fucking with him. I told him I masturbated at least once a day, averaged twice, sometimes up to 5 on the weekends and watched any type of porn I could get my hands on.
This surprised him as I was a good upstanding person and an altar boy. I asked him if he was trying to fuck any girl that would give him the time of day. I confessed that I fell in love with girls just because they smelled good when they passed by and would get hard by a smile, a friend touching my arm, a small look at cleavage, a tight shirt across big tits, peaking underwear on their lower back,etc.
Why would god give you raging hormones if not to find someone and want to fuck? Your body, that god made, is giving you these urges and then he gets pissed off when you give into them? Just masturbate and go to confession about every 3 months.
Fuck. Remembering, as I typed this, of his visible relief and how much his demeanor changed for the better after our talk got me upset. Fuck religious bullshit. To top it off, when I got married by the church, we had to do a couples seminar to go over specifics of marriage, talking things out, help the church can give and expectations, etc. It ended with a confessional, not as a couple it’s always alone, and I confessed we’ve had premarital sex. The priest just went, of course! It’s only natural.
Then why all the guilt tripping and mental anguish when we are teens!
The way I’d put it is: what’s the distribution look like? I’d guess it’s not a “bell curve” normal distribution, but more of a “two peak” bimodal distribution with one peak around 1-3 and the other peak somewhere to the right of 5. (but again, that’s just a guess)
I feel like there’s some statistical fuckery going on here. I feel like in a lot of super religious communities 2 is a lot, maybe 3 depending on how many youth pastors talked you into a blowie when you were 14. Versus in a lot of more liberal communities premarital sex and divorces are a lot more common. And those communities reproduce like fucking rabbits vs other communities are out here fucking a lot but only reproducing responsibly.
I’ve also wondered if a lot of the highly religious women I grew up with finding sex unpleasant or a chore is mostly just due to the sex being bad. If they won’t even tell you what a clitoris is, the men are literally taught that they’re owed it and they don’t need to bother making it pleasant, and then add in that (EDIT: LATE) masturbation in women is associated with inability to orgasm as an adult… best case scenario most of the experience is just one long chafing sensation. No wonder all the women I grew up with mostly just found the whole thing gross!
edit: lol my phone cut out the word late before masturbation and that completely changes the meaning of that sentence. What I meant to say is that studies show that if women don’t masturbate when they’re young they’re at much higher risk for anorgasmia later in life.
It has a lot to do with the guilt associated with premarital sex. I know a fundamentalist Christian woman who would get physically ill after going too far with her boyfriend, even though they still stopped before actual sex. Once she got married that went away.
A friend confided that, no matter how much he tried to not masturbate, he would always end up doing it and the guilt was fucking with him. I told him I masturbated at least once a day, averaged twice, sometimes up to 5 on the weekends and watched any type of porn I could get my hands on.
This surprised him as I was a good upstanding person and an altar boy. I asked him if he was trying to fuck any girl that would give him the time of day. I confessed that I fell in love with girls just because they smelled good when they passed by and would get hard by a smile, a friend touching my arm, a small look at cleavage, a tight shirt across big tits, peaking underwear on their lower back,etc.
Why would god give you raging hormones if not to find someone and want to fuck? Your body, that god made, is giving you these urges and then he gets pissed off when you give into them? Just masturbate and go to confession about every 3 months.
Fuck. Remembering, as I typed this, of his visible relief and how much his demeanor changed for the better after our talk got me upset. Fuck religious bullshit. To top it off, when I got married by the church, we had to do a couples seminar to go over specifics of marriage, talking things out, help the church can give and expectations, etc. It ended with a confessional, not as a couple it’s always alone, and I confessed we’ve had premarital sex. The priest just went, of course! It’s only natural.
Then why all the guilt tripping and mental anguish when we are teens!
The way I’d put it is: what’s the distribution look like? I’d guess it’s not a “bell curve” normal distribution, but more of a “two peak” bimodal distribution with one peak around 1-3 and the other peak somewhere to the right of 5. (but again, that’s just a guess)