I was very specifically never absolute and even started with “there are some cases…”. There are absolutely cases where severe ADHD and low-functioning autism are objectively challenges no matter who you are, and I will never refute that. There are also so many instances of neurodivergent people able to do their jobs, have their friends, and go out for errands without much of an issue and in fact it can even be super helpful for them and a strength that, if fostered instead of rejected, can lead to some pretty amazing things.
Of course there will be friction, communication is inherently an activity with friction no matter who you are. The choice you have is whether you want to find understanding or to blame the other person for not reading your mind/holding your hand. “The perfect is the enemy of the good” is a saying that I believe would fit well here, because I never asked for perfection and understand that there’s a lot of value in simply trying and knowing that, despite friction, the person across from you still values your humanity the same as their own.
All I’m asking for is that NT people stop treating everyone else like they’re problems. If I wanted to throw it back in their faces I’d say “yea, those NT people must have a really hard time in life. They struggle so much with forming deeper, lasting friendships and they’re so afraid of standing up for themselves and rocking the boat. And heck, they don’t even care that they’re working so inefficiently, they really just gotta take a step back and try some new things. Like, ok, you can “focus” for 8hrs a day but you’re exhausted and not getting anything done!” They are treated like and act like they’re the perfect ideal but have flaws just like anyone else. Honestly I wish we changed the label because calling them “typical” has the same energy as making the colour “skin” in the crayola pack a light pink.
We’re all in this together but there’s distinctly one group that, generally speaking, doesn’t play nice with others.
I was very specifically never absolute and even started with “there are some cases…”. There are absolutely cases where severe ADHD and low-functioning autism are objectively challenges no matter who you are, and I will never refute that. There are also so many instances of neurodivergent people able to do their jobs, have their friends, and go out for errands without much of an issue and in fact it can even be super helpful for them and a strength that, if fostered instead of rejected, can lead to some pretty amazing things.
Of course there will be friction, communication is inherently an activity with friction no matter who you are. The choice you have is whether you want to find understanding or to blame the other person for not reading your mind/holding your hand. “The perfect is the enemy of the good” is a saying that I believe would fit well here, because I never asked for perfection and understand that there’s a lot of value in simply trying and knowing that, despite friction, the person across from you still values your humanity the same as their own.
All I’m asking for is that NT people stop treating everyone else like they’re problems. If I wanted to throw it back in their faces I’d say “yea, those NT people must have a really hard time in life. They struggle so much with forming deeper, lasting friendships and they’re so afraid of standing up for themselves and rocking the boat. And heck, they don’t even care that they’re working so inefficiently, they really just gotta take a step back and try some new things. Like, ok, you can “focus” for 8hrs a day but you’re exhausted and not getting anything done!” They are treated like and act like they’re the perfect ideal but have flaws just like anyone else. Honestly I wish we changed the label because calling them “typical” has the same energy as making the colour “skin” in the crayola pack a light pink.
We’re all in this together but there’s distinctly one group that, generally speaking, doesn’t play nice with others.