Part of the issue I have is that what you’re saying is technically correct (the best kind). But I think it’s only right for a very small amount of people. It feels good to say that you just want to recognize that there are people who can’t do it, but saying that in this type of discussion gives that demographic the feeling of equivalent weight when they’re a very small portion comparatively and gives the false impression that there are enough people who straight up can’t do it that anyone reading that can just assume they fall into that category and never try. Most people can change or turn their life around, there’s just a culture of patting each other on the back and saying “not everyone can do it”.

I think part of that also comes from something else you said: “I just want to recognize that as trying so hard to get that perfect life turnaround is like winning the lottery”. The culture I mentioned comes from this binary attitude of deciding either you’re going to go all the way and get that perfect life or you’re just one of the unlucky ones who shouldn’t try. But turning your life around can happen in so many positive ways that don’t include getting a perfect life.