• aaaaaaadjsf [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      First and foremost, my partner went exclusively to single sex schools. He has never actually been present to observe these kinds of behaviors in school age/teenage girls (only dated a few when he was in late teens).

      This is why I have almost no friends left from my time at an all boys boarding high school. Just say the most deranged stuff about women, even now that they’re in their mid 20s. Didn’t grow out if it at all.

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        I had a similar experience in college: most of the people I roomed with and went to class with were self described “South Park Republicans” and most went on to tech jobs which only coddled and amplified their dudebro “nonpolitical” misogyny.

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          I met up with some of them recently and it was just sad. I know people don’t change that much and shouldn’t be expected to, but these guys said the exact same stuff they did when they were 16, almost a decade later. No personal growth in almost a decade. Just sad.

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      First and foremost, my partner went exclusively to single sex schools. He has never actually been present to observe these kinds of behaviors in school age/teenage girls (only dated a few when he was in late teens).

      That’s not a surprise that’s a cause

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      This is one of those things where I’d ask if you’ve brought it up with him, but holy shit I’m so tired of arguing with people all the time.

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      Yep this goes for most of anything. Ignorant people speak in absolutes. Even more so when they’re not self reflecting at all.

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      What has incorrectly been attributed to the individual genders, should have instead been attributed to humanity as a whole. Bitchyness isn’t a woman thing, it’s a human thing, same as- being a dick isn’t a man thing, it’s a human thing.

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    In my experience they seem to do, at least at their workplace. I’ve never heard a man complain about their coworkers in some mean way… But most women I know do actively complain about them…

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      Do you have male friends? I hear women complain about their coworkers all the time, but it’s not close to the level of awful things / personal attacks I’ve heard from my male friends.

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        I used to work in an appliance factory, and the employees there were split pretty evenly male/female. And here’s the fun part, both men and women could be shitheads, and both men and women could be awesome people.

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    Tumblr is so shit.

    Like it clearly says we asked 3 women but they can’t even read two sentences to get to that fact.

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      but why ask a man in the first place? and even if you do, why present it like it’s two positions of equal merit (and present the man’s first)?

      I don’t know what’s in the article, but the headline itself is pretty funny in it’s absurdity.

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        Being a women yourself only makes you know plus one woman. This qualifies you only a little bit more to answer such a question. A more interesting metric would be how many women you know in total.

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          If the amount of ghosting tantrums I get from every guy the moment I won’t date with them is an indication, probably on speaking terms with more women at once than they are, yes.

          Not that I would deny them their chance to tell me what I think