Oh sure! I think the big difference here is between people who get off on pain as an act of submission (much more common) and true ‘masochism’ (hurt me enough and I’ll cum). I do both, but one is a learned social dynamic that’s a great deal of fun and one’s more of a brain-wiring thing. That, plus I’m pretty autistic and have always had a atypical relationship with pain add up to “Built different, but not in a snooty way”.
I find the “hurt me enough and I’ll cum” interesting. All masochists I’ve talked to wouldn’t exactly get off at the dentist - that’s also my experience with pain. Is that different for you?
Please tell me to bugger off if I’m being too forward here.
(Oh you’re fine! Obviously I just hate talking about kink…)
“Hurt me = cum” is admittedly a bit of an oversimplification on my part: context does matter (if your dentist hauled off and kissed you in the middle of a procedure you’d probably be more confused than turned on) for example, but more relevant is the type of pain - oral stuff doesn’t do it for me (okay, it does, but not the kind of pain you get at the dentist), but shutting my hand in a drawer or really bashing myself on a shelf super can, to the point it makes being clumsy in public really awkward sometimes. You get used to it, sure, but it’s still more of a brain wiring thing than a contextual thing.
The type of pain being relevant makes a lot of sense. I guess that goes for all stimuli - just because I like fairly noisy and repetitive music doesn’t mean I enjoy listening to construction noise.
Does it have to be events of pain or can it be continuous? Is predicament pain like in the picture enough to make you cum?
I find the thought of you hitting your shin or something and having to suppress a moan very charming, by the way. :)
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Oh sure! I think the big difference here is between people who get off on pain as an act of submission (much more common) and true ‘masochism’ (hurt me enough and I’ll cum). I do both, but one is a learned social dynamic that’s a great deal of fun and one’s more of a brain-wiring thing. That, plus I’m pretty autistic and have always had a atypical relationship with pain add up to “Built different, but not in a snooty way”.
Thanks so much for your answer! :)
I find the “hurt me enough and I’ll cum” interesting. All masochists I’ve talked to wouldn’t exactly get off at the dentist - that’s also my experience with pain. Is that different for you?
Please tell me to bugger off if I’m being too forward here.
(Oh you’re fine! Obviously I just hate talking about kink…)
“Hurt me = cum” is admittedly a bit of an oversimplification on my part: context does matter (if your dentist hauled off and kissed you in the middle of a procedure you’d probably be more confused than turned on) for example, but more relevant is the type of pain - oral stuff doesn’t do it for me (okay, it does, but not the kind of pain you get at the dentist), but shutting my hand in a drawer or really bashing myself on a shelf super can, to the point it makes being clumsy in public really awkward sometimes. You get used to it, sure, but it’s still more of a brain wiring thing than a contextual thing.
The type of pain being relevant makes a lot of sense. I guess that goes for all stimuli - just because I like fairly noisy and repetitive music doesn’t mean I enjoy listening to construction noise.
Does it have to be events of pain or can it be continuous? Is predicament pain like in the picture enough to make you cum?
I find the thought of you hitting your shin or something and having to suppress a moan very charming, by the way. :)