Bear with me for a minute. Parents spend a lot of time dealing with your “traumas” at a young age, which somewhat entrains this response. As a 2 year old, the wind blew the leaf you picked up on the walk out of your hands. At 8, you didn’t get the cookie you really wanted. At 12 the boy you like made fun of your hair. These are upsetting to the child but it’s also part of a learning experience to help adjust to real life disappointments.
Sometimes your parents can’t tell the difference between a childish disappointment and a traumatic experience. They don’t see the world in your eyes. They do deal with a variety of their own issues and trauma inducing experiences, and as there’s no mandatory training course for raising a child, they don’t know how to help you through things that upset you. Usually, they care about you. But they don’t always have the emotional capacity to provide the level of support you think you need.
Bear with me for a minute. Parents spend a lot of time dealing with your “traumas” at a young age, which somewhat entrains this response. As a 2 year old, the wind blew the leaf you picked up on the walk out of your hands. At 8, you didn’t get the cookie you really wanted. At 12 the boy you like made fun of your hair. These are upsetting to the child but it’s also part of a learning experience to help adjust to real life disappointments.
Sometimes your parents can’t tell the difference between a childish disappointment and a traumatic experience. They don’t see the world in your eyes. They do deal with a variety of their own issues and trauma inducing experiences, and as there’s no mandatory training course for raising a child, they don’t know how to help you through things that upset you. Usually, they care about you. But they don’t always have the emotional capacity to provide the level of support you think you need.