• Rojo27 [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    From my own experience, social anxiety. Its not like I can’t even talk to girls. Shit, I probably get along with some better than I do dudes, but I always hesitate to take any action that might have elevated stakes. And I’ve worked hard on convincing my self not to think this way.

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      8 months ago

      I agree with this. I’ve known lots of really attractive guys with a lot going for them that have terrible dating lives because they never make the first move

      While dudes that are terrible beings and not very attractive get way more dates because they’re always hitting on women

      • RyanGosling [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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        8 months ago

        While dudes that are terrible beings and not very attractive get way more dates because they’re always hitting on women

        I see this often and it’s amusing because the terrible guys are usually the same ones who complain about women not liking “nice guys”, while the shy ones will usually be split 80/20 between “I guess this is just life” and “WOMEN HATE NICE GUYS” despite never talking to any women