A loser can’t exist in a vacuum, it’s a value judgement pushed on us by society, and society makes you feel like a loser for lots of things.
Society makes you feel like a loser for riding the bus, but that’s not a good reason to buy a car.
Society makes you feel like a loser for being fat, but that’s not a good reason to work out.
Society makes you feel like a loser for not drinking alcohol, but that’s not a good reason to drink.
Society makes you feel like a loser for being single, but that’s not a good reason to enter a relationship.
There exist valid reasons to do those things, but they come from inside, because you want something for yourself. If you do these things because you think you have to, to counter some internalized negative self-image, you will find them hollow and resent them. Control the part of you that accepts societies judgement of you, don’t try to satisfy it, it doesn’t work.
A loser can’t exist in a vacuum, it’s a value judgement pushed on us by society, and society makes you feel like a loser for lots of things.
Society makes you feel like a loser for riding the bus, but that’s not a good reason to buy a car.
Society makes you feel like a loser for being fat, but that’s not a good reason to work out.
Society makes you feel like a loser for not drinking alcohol, but that’s not a good reason to drink.
Society makes you feel like a loser for being single, but that’s not a good reason to enter a relationship.
There exist valid reasons to do those things, but they come from inside, because you want something for yourself. If you do these things because you think you have to, to counter some internalized negative self-image, you will find them hollow and resent them. Control the part of you that accepts societies judgement of you, don’t try to satisfy it, it doesn’t work.