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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Nothing in there negates that people need to have personal responsibility. I don’t like the democratic platform, I think Harris was mid at best. But I still voted for them with reluctant gusto because the alternatives were incalculably worse. I used my personal accountability and freedom of choice.

    The DNC and RNC and the people they are running all suck. Some more than others. And they are completely responsible for their portion of this equation. I don’t deny that in the least. But you are framing this like they are the only controlling decision makers in this equation. The DNC or RNC didn’t decide my vote. Harris didn’t decide my vote. Trump didn’t decide my vote. I did. And if you voted, you decided your vote. No one else. People are responsible for their choices.

    The rich and powerful do their best to manipulate the unwashed masses, and this time they won. AND they won because people were irresponsible with their decisions and let themselves think that a terrible candidate was better than a mid candidate.

    More than one thing is true here and that’s ok. The rich and powerful that manipulated the people are at fault. The dems and DNC that ran a weak ass platform are at fault. And the voters that didn’t do their due diligence and let themselves be conned are at fault.

    Let’s move on from the blame and shame game and move on to solutions. Like how can we get ranked choice voting? How can we ensure truthful broadcasting and news coverage? How can we educate voters? How can we remove the money from Washington? How can we change the DNC to run a better platform? How can we get out the authoritarians from both sides?















  • Thanks for taking it well, rereading it I think I may have written in way that wasn’t indicative of my intended tone. I meant it in a friendly way.

    Ultimately it’s up to you two and how you both feel about things. Internet people can only get a gist of your life and perspectives. Just be cognizant of how these choices can affect each of you emotionally and decide if you have the emotional stability and maturity to handle the situation, be prepared and completely cool and ready to stop if one of you gets cold feet right as things get started or in the middle. Be prepared to be unsatisfied in one way or another. It may go swimmingly but be mentally prepared to handle things if it’s not. Relationships can be heavily tested with adventures and moments like this. Insecurties come out the woodwork and little things can become big. From one internet stranger to another, I want you both to be safe, happy, and satisfied, no matter how things go. It’s a lot to think on and I don’t envy you. But if things work out, congrats and enjoy!


  • If you wouldn’t do things with another woman then don’t look for another man to do them with. You guys decide what to do, but to me monogamy is monogamy no matter what you are attracted to. So if the only reason is you feel you missed out on getting railed by a fat cock, that’s not a strong enough one for risking your marriage.

    Not judging, just chiming in that if you and your wife are still in love, don’t risk that relationship. She may agree to something even if she’s uneasy about it just out of love for you. So please be careful. It is a slippery slope, it can lead to irrevocable damage. There are enough divorces and split homes as it is. Good luck either way though. 🙂



  • Or maybe, just maybe, we should love people as they are and not make up stupid societal bullshit to follow for an indeterminate amount of time. I get you don’t want to let out all the crazy before you know someone, and maybe this really is too much up front and your point stands. But I don’t think it’s that grevious. Maybe they are cheap, or maybe they wanted to show how skilled they are, or maybe they thought “this is really cool to me, I hope she finds it cool too”.

    Either way it’s clear she’s not a fit for him. But that’s kind of a stupid note to end things on. I hope he finds someone more tolerant and understanding that takes an interest instead of being judgy and “weirded out” by essentially a hobby.