Lerios [hy/hym]

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Joined 4 years ago
Cake day: July 26th, 2020
  • Lerios [hy/hym]@hexbear.nettochapotraphouse@hexbear.net•gen Z is not a uniquely reactionary generation nor is it a uniquely revolutionary generationEnglish
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    6 days ago

    many of their left wingers are more radical than Occupy Wall Street (and even Bernie)

    thats an understatement. i have told friends about the maoist reforms and been met with “when can we do that here lol”. i can big up Stalin and say that billionaires/CEOs have it coming and get literally 0 pushback. talking to older people about the uhygur bullshit gets me accused of genocide denial or fake news and is always an uphill battle, but people my age take “well obviously the news is saying awful shit about china, its owned by ultrarich americans who have a vested interest in lying to you lmao” as a fairly obvious answer. i’ve only ever encountered pushback from one zoomer and it was requests for sources from a ex-right-voting centrist at work.

    i know my sample is biased by not being in the us and being openly a communist, but i don’t think the problem is that the zoomer left (or, imo, the vast majority of zoomers who aren’t straight up fash) aren’t amenable to socialism, its that we are MASSIVELY disillusioned. no one under 30 in the west has actually been helped by the political establishment. nothing has ever gotten better, and the current projections are that nothing ever will. we’re not against the far left or whatever; we’re just absolute and utter doomers

  • Lerios [hy/hym]@hexbear.nettochapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Check In Thread: How Are You Doing, Comrade?English
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    6 days ago

    politically i feel fucking high, like, this is the type of week that reminds me why i follow politics (in a jokerfied way). i’m not inside the great satan so really this only affects me through watching libs become disillusioned on the internet. the despair in me says that somehow none of these will stick and nobody’s getting radicalized, but the meltdown is fun at least. plus, usamerican will be be more likely to give a shit about the world for a few years and trump’s admin might get us closer to peace in ukraine (which is a lot more relevant to my area lol)

    but on the personal side of things, i continue to be fucking useless. this job won’t hold out for another year and i’m desperately trying to apply to PhDs to actually do some good in the world, but my god i’m awful without a clear, set deadline, which these don’t have. i’ve always done everything the night before it was due and now i’m looking at blank pages and just… not filling them. for night after night i do NOTHING. i don’t even play video games or sew or do the things i actually enjoy, i just have to sit around despairing that i’m not doing what i need to and want to. people have been telling me to get adhd tested for a literal decade, and this is the first time i kind of regret not listening (a guy at work says he knows someone who could sell me some adderal, but thats Very Illegal here and also idk…). personally i don’t think i’m adhd, i’m pretty sure i’m just a lazy bastard who’s never had to try academically, but still, any advantage might be nice 🙃

    plus, i’ve now learnt that doing anything (like getting into a phd) when you have a dayjob SUCKS. my job is a scam tbh but even so, my noctural ass is having mad trouble staying up past midnight, and turning to energy drinks to fix it seems like its me immune to energy drinks. it just feel like theres infinitely less time in the day kitty-birthday-sad

    thanks for giving us somewhere to say this sort of shit and reminding us to take a minute to contemplate, comrade corgi Care-Comrade doggo-matapacos

  • Lerios [hy/hym]@hexbear.nettochapotraphouse@hexbear.net•Getting matches on dating app Hinge but 98% of people don’t respond to messagesEnglish
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    16 days ago

    i’ve heard about these and i’m interested. i’m not in the US but i am in a very large city, so they presumably exist, but i’ve no clue how to find one - fetlife was my only lead and that appears to be kind of dead. i picked up a flyer for a regularly scheduled kink party at pride, but that seems to be pretty intense and have a very high bar of entry (expensive elaborate dress code)

    if i can find them, would it be weird to go to one of those as a virgin? i don’t really know what i’m looking for or how to talk about some of these things 🙃 would it be safe to go alone as a visibly afab person?

  • Lerios [hy/hym]@hexbear.nettotraaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•Are you cisgender? Gender Survey Result: Majority of active Hexbear users say No and Maybe.English
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    1 month ago

    There was at least one cis woman with hy / hym pronouns in the replies to the survey

    horror hi, glad to be causing trouble and confusing the narrative lmao 😎

    but yeah i’m very keen of the idea that pronouns =/= gender, but that seems kind of hard for most people offline (even in many lgbt spaces) to get their head around. or the idea of neopronouns. god forbid you do both lmao

    ngl i got wayyyyyyy more upbears and responses to that comment than i expected from a stream of consiousness/vent about misogyny and gender stereotypes and my Situation™ and i got kind of scared lol. shoutout to the encouraging replies and reading recommendations tho phoenix-bashful

    EDIT: the thread is locked now but i typed a response to the person who asked why i still ID as a woman despite being masc (although, again, being masc or using different pronouns doesn't have anything to do with being a woman) before i realised that. may as well put it here i guess

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    gender only exists to be restrictive, so I don’t want anything to do with it. But I’m amab - there’s no reason for camaraderie there

    Gender exists to be restrictive in such a way that is designed to facilitate the exploitation of women

    You’re right, it is about solidarity and tbh about organising around shared concerns and dangers. When i complain about getting shit for not wearing makeup at work and such, the women in my life are fucking outraged while men i’ve mention it to tell me it can’t be that serious. If i ever need reproductive healthcare, it can be denied to me based on the fact that i am afab, and the vast majority of people who particularly care about that are other afab people. When i go out at night i keep a very close eye on my friends and we make sure we all know where everyone is and to get home together, because, due to the fact that we’re women, we are much more likely to be put in danger in that situation – and when I have been in that kind of danger, the people (even strangers) that have helped me have always been women, the people far more likely to know how it feels and how it happens. When my manager harassed a girl at work, it was women who organised a response while the men on the team said shit about overreactions and “the benefit of the doubt” and so on.

    There are a lot of situations where women and/or afab people look out for each other, either at large or individually. I have no reason to move away from the people with whom i have shared class interest due to shared oppression.