Can you cite any research into tarot card reading specifically as an effective tool?

https://piefed.social/u/beetus@lemmy.world = 34% Attitude

No thanks troll, not engaging further.

It’s a measure of your attitude on the Fediverse https://piefed.social/u/beetus@lemmy.world

It’s very low, so either you’re a troll or you lack the ability to have good online discourse. Either way I’m done talking to you. Bye.

This confirms it, you’re a troll.

https://i.imgur.com/rybCqPI.png

I’m done engaging with you.

And I used the word chemistry 3 times. Context matters.

You ask if you if you are a fool to consider that you should love someone more deeply than their “logistics”.

I never said that, I’m shocked at how completely wrong you’re getting this. I’m going to assume you’re a troll.

I literally in my post say that “I don’t feel the chemistry/attraction”

Are you just trolling?

Logistics matter, if one of you badly wants kids and the other doesn’t at all that’s a deal-breaker no matter how madly in love you are.

People who pretend logistics don’t matter are naive.

Should a 40 year old women who wants kids date a 25 year old student who lives on a different continent and firmly believes he doesn’t want kids just because they are madly in love? No obviously not.

Logistics matter.

Love matters equally, I never said it didn’t. Somehow you seem to gotten it into your head that I think love doesn’t matter or that I don’t care for love, if that was true I wouldn’t have made a post literally talking about a lack of emotions/love that I feel and if others have felt the same and later found it.

What happens when the “logistics” falter? Are you willing to compromise your self admitted desire for more? Are you willing to be unsatisfied in the emotional and romantic connection department just because your friends think she’s hot?

Honestly did you even read my post or replies? What makes you think that I think any of the things you just said.

Sure logistics or even love can falter, but you need to start from a good foundation where logistics and love is at a good place to stand a chance.

desire the intimate connection you arent getting It’s this, which is why I came here to find out if some people didn’t have it at the start but then found it.

You say I keep talking about logistics? When did I do that? You’re literally just making things up now. Literally your first reply to me in in a message that I said that maybe I’m a hopeless romantic and that I hope that I fall in love with her.

What you claim to be seeing isn’t reality. It’s NOT a business deal. I have no idea what made you get to that conclusion.

Two people can love each other, but not make each other happy or not give each other what they need. Logistics matter, love alone isn’t enough.

I’ve known her for 4 weeks, the logistics couldn’t be better but I feel a lack of love/spark.

That’s what brings me here making this post, because I feel both are important.

Thanks I appreciate the time and effort you put into that. Yea that makes sense, it’s great hearing these things and talking about it.

I feel I can’t talk to my friends or family about this because there is a timeline where she becomes my wife, and then I don’t want the people close to us to have known that I felt this way in the beginning. I’d always want to put my partner in the best light, even if it’s just a hypothetical partner for now haha

Thanks yea, I’ll definitely give it some time.

After some more thought I think we might lack some emotional closeness and vulnerability. We’re different in some ways and probably haven’t opened up to each other enough yet. These things come with time, I need to curb my expectations given the time frame

Solid advice thank you!!

Serial monogamist? Relationship hopper? I don’t think that’s what this is I had a time in my life where I was singe for a long time and a time where I fooled around etc. and while that was fun I’m now in a part of my life where I’d like to build towards a future and not just short term fun.

When I say settle down, I mean be in a serious relationship that might lead to building a life together. I’m in no rush to get married and have kids, keen to work towards that but that would probably take ~3 years at a minimum if I meet the right person

I don’t feel comfortable asking someone to be more feminine.

I feel people should accept each other for who they are and how they are, I’d hate to ask someone to change to fit what feels like shallow needs of mine.

Trust, respect and friendship I feel is 100% there.

To me trust and respect comes easy, there are many people in my life I trust and respect, and I’d never cheat on my partner. I just don’t see myself ever doing that it’s not who I am.

I can see a incredible partnership and life with this person but I feel my heart isn’t 100% in it, maybe I’m a hopeless romantic and feel a lack of a feeling of love or emotional connection. IDK

I’d hate requiring someone to change for the relationship to work, especially something that feels so surface level.

I feel changing to fit your partner happens a bit naturally over time, but it shouldn’t be a requirement and I’d hate to ask someone to dress differently or behave differently.

If they happen do wear or do something I like, I’d say “Ohhh I love that” etc. to subtly encourage it, but if they never want to wear a dress I don’t want to pressure them into that.

I have a lot of respect for my potential new partner, she’s really got her life together and I’ve been told so do I.

For me respect comes easy, there are many people in my life that I respect and will always be there for them when they need me, and who make me a better person and I for them.

But maybe I’m a hopeless romantic, and feel there’s a spark or love or something missing with this potential new partner, and I’m trying to figure that out.

I’m sure we can have great lives together and are a good fit in so many ways, but I’m scared that’d I’d be stuck with this feeling that I’m missing something, and I hope I fall in love with her, but yea time till tell, it’s early days, let’s see.

Thanks for the advice, I’m very much the kind of person who will check what research says about the effectiveness of treatments before trying it.

Unfortunately science and research doesn’t support tarot card readings, so it’s not something that would work for me.