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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • For the record, I fucking hate Plex.

    But this is a disingenuous simplification of where the gap is.

    Me, my brother-in-law, and friend all share our libraries with the same elderly relatives.

    The GAP is that great grandma has to log in/out between servers to find content that may or may not be on an individual server. Plex lets you search/aggregate from all sources without having to jockey credentials and servers.

    It’s not a giant ask. I heard a fucking absolutely brain-dead take that “that would require a centralized server which is against Jellyfins core ideology”.

    So, I dunno. Maybe it isn’t YOUR use case, but it’s MY use case. Doesn’t make me a shill. I’m still pissed as hell.

    But don’t fucking pretend that there is feature parity when there isn’t, and don’t accuse me of being a shill just because Jellyfin literally doesn’t support my use case. I WISH it did. I HATE PLEX.









  • If this lady was walking her dog, spotted OP down the street, said “I think they have a disability” and then jogged down the street to sucker punch them, then I actually doubt OPs assertion that people generally think this lady is a good person.

    OP has correctly concluded that things aren’t adding up here. I’m taking OP at their word that they want to understand. It might be that their assessment that others see this lady as good isn’t correct. It might also be that their assessment that the reason for the “trying to beat up” wasn’t because of their disability.

    I’ve known some high-functioning autistic people who’ve gotten physically struck from saying extremely inappropriate things (from the perspective of the listener) after missing 100 social cues that people are incredibly offended. It’s unjustifiable, but I’d have been a shitty friend if I didn’t help them understand the social cues and why extremely accurate assessments should not always be vocalized… Or at least to understand how people are likely to react so they can make informed decisions.

    No idea if this is OPs sitch, but it sounds like they’re trying to navigate a scenario they don’t understand, and I know I have more to offer than affirmations if they want that.



  • People play real fast and loose with these terms.

    My advice is to do what you’re doing here, which is learn… But to remember to meet people where they’re at.

    By these definitions, with sex relating to biological things, you might be tempted to tell someone they can’t just “decide” their sex, by this definition. Don’t do it.

    Not saying you would, but resist the urge to get into a semantic argument. Just ask the specific people what they mean by these words when they say them, and roll with it. Prioritize understanding over being understood.

    This advice goes for anything, but this is a particularly spicy meatball.



  • For what it’s worth, and maybe I’m naive, but I read that comment not about not meeting some criteria of what appears on a driver’s license… But instead rebuking the notion that JD has acted with the integrity required to achieve “manhood”.

    English has really massacred the ability to clearly articulate concepts around biology, identifying as a boy or girl, and then having lived in such a way to have “ascended” to “manhood/womanhood”.

    JD Vance is a boy if he says he’s a boy. Being a man isn’t so simple. I reject that he is a man.



  • Yeah. They’re ugly as fuck, but I want a vehicle that does what a truck does and is electric. The initial reveal was like, 80% of what a truck does. Close enough when there were no other options on the market.

    Then they watered it down, didn’t even deliver something remotely reliable, musk went full Nazi, then Ford and rivian made trucks that fit the bill better anyways. Not that it really ever bothered me, but also their trucks are not ugly as sin.

    Cybertruck will probably be studied in business schools for centuries as the textbook monumental fuck up that it is.


  • I don’t even think the men dreaming of the events (for the specific reason of finding a romantic partner) are enthralled by the pageantry.

    In media, the trope is that the women at these things have no agency. Basically whatever man shows up to ask them to dance they end up ending up betrothed to, even if they have the personality of a wet noodle or an angry little dog.

    I think that’s what is so alluring to these guys. They long for a medium where their trash personalities aren’t a liability.