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Cake day: March 25th, 2026

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  • 20NB here. Possibly in a similar boat to you at my age. I consider myself abrosexual, but I have not been able to experiment as of yet.

    As for how I figured things out, it’s quite simple. I am panromantic and demiromantic, and I have only loved three people in my life. All three are fellow enbies, but between them they cover the three main areas of the gender spectrum.

    I also see a fair amount of (generally non-spicy) fanart on Tumblr and Pinterest, which has strengthened my convictions.

    Because of my demiromanticism, as well as depression (self-Dx; 99.999% certainty) and autism (awaiting formal Dx; the NHS is shit), I have not started dating yet and I have not been in any relationships; so this is entirely instinctual and has not been tested.



    • Tea
      • 🇳🇱 PG Tips is popular here in the UK.
      • 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 Ringtons (a personal favourite) is popular in and around Newcastle, where the company is based.
      • 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 Yorkshire Tea (also exceedingly popular in the north as well as the midlands) is owned by Betty’s & Taylors.
      • 🇬🇧 Tetley is a popular brand owned by 🇮🇳 Tata, though personally I can’t drink the stuff.
    • Coffee
      • 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 Black Sheep Coffee is a chain of coffee shops in the UK, but they also sell beans and grounds.
      • 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 Pilgrims Coffee is a small roastery on Holy Island.
      • While their instant coffee is never great, supermarket own-brand beans and grounds are better than you would expect. 🇬🇧 Tesco and 🇬🇧 Waitrose both sell fairly nice coffee.
      • 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 Pumphrey’s is another small coffee roaster, from Newcastle-Upon-Tyne. Many independent cafés and shops in the north-east sell their coffee, but I believe you have to buy beans and grounds directly.
    • 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 Red Box Coffee is based in Edinburgh and they sell tea and coffee, both of which are quite nice.