I’d definitely recommended valetudo, but wanted to mention that eufy has some easily repairable non WiFi vacs that work reasonably well with no smart features. Eufy has a rough track record regarding privacy with their other smart products but can’t spy without a connection.
Depression is tough. Being a good partner during it is really hard. Make sure youre taking care of yourself while you’re trying to help him.
SSRIs are different for everyone and its important to evaluate how they might be affecting him with a professional. Keeps encouraging the therapy!
Alcohol can also affect the way SSRIs interact with their mood. It may provide temporary relief for the tough feelings but it will in, nearly all cases, result in a dependency cycle. It will bring his mood down and have him wanting more to readjust.
I’d ask that he abstain until therapy and meds can be evaluated/adjusted if necessary. Its a tough ask when things are that dark for someone, but it would be helpful to go into therapy with as close to a baseline mood as it can be.
There’s going to be better days and worse days. For him and you. Try to help each other through the next few months. You might be pulling more emotional weight, but don’t look at it that way if it can be helped. Something easier said than done.
Good luck.