Hmm, this sounds a lot like what I used to think. I used to argue to myself that I only wanted to be a woman because I’m such a failure at being a guy.
One thing that was helpful in figuring things out for me was reframing the question “am I trans?” to “am I cis or trans?”, where being cis isn’t just a neutral, default position, but its own separate gender identity, which made it a lot clearer which one I identified more with.
Hmm, this sounds a lot like what I used to think. I used to argue to myself that I only wanted to be a woman because I’m such a failure at being a guy.
One thing that was helpful in figuring things out for me was reframing the question “am I trans?” to “am I cis or trans?”, where being cis isn’t just a neutral, default position, but its own separate gender identity, which made it a lot clearer which one I identified more with.