j4k3@lemmy.world to Casual Conversation @lemm.eeEnglish · 2 months agoWhich is worse: a parent that clearly planned to have a child and never takes a personal interest in them, or one that clearly was an unplanned child and never takes a personal interest?message-squaremessage-square33fedilinkarrow-up125arrow-down18file-text
arrow-up117arrow-down1message-squareWhich is worse: a parent that clearly planned to have a child and never takes a personal interest in them, or one that clearly was an unplanned child and never takes a personal interest?j4k3@lemmy.world to Casual Conversation @lemm.eeEnglish · 2 months agomessage-square33fedilinkfile-text
minus-squareScrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up5·2 months agoHey I was a child of one of each! You can’t compare them. There’s no scale of trauma, you can’t say this was a level 6 while that’s a level 8. They’re both going to deeply effect you over the years in different ways. Only way I dealt with it was by starting therapy.
minus-squarefine_sandy_bottom@lemmy.federate.cclinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1·2 months agoMy parents weren’t great, but I think they did their best given their limited resources and the context of social norms at the time. I too go to therapy. It doesn’t help.
Hey I was a child of one of each!
You can’t compare them. There’s no scale of trauma, you can’t say this was a level 6 while that’s a level 8. They’re both going to deeply effect you over the years in different ways.
Only way I dealt with it was by starting therapy.
My parents weren’t great, but I think they did their best given their limited resources and the context of social norms at the time.
I too go to therapy. It doesn’t help.