Canât take being misgendered and harassed. He/himed. People starting arguments over their own intolerance and blaming the arguments on drag. Banned from trans communities on blahaj and then unbanned but the unban didnât federate, so donât know where to post this. In so much pain. Hopes this post wonât lead to more pain. What do you do when nobody will believe youâre hurt, and every time you scream out in pain, youâre accused of having an agenda? What kind of agenda is just not wanting to be harassed anymore? They think theyâre winning when they fill a thread with drama and then complain about all the drama. They think theyâre doing something right? How do you tell people youâre honestly suffering and have them believe you?
self-harm thoughts
Do you just cut your skin open and show it to them? Is that how you convince them that theyâre causing you pain? HOW? How the fuck do you convince them that your pain isnât a trick?
They tell you to block them while they misgender you and tell the whole world youâre the devil. âJust ignore everything Iâm doing to hurt you and youâll be okayâ. It doesnât make any sense but they think itâs right. They could choose to disengage this very minute but they donât. They think harassment and misgendering is a crusade of justice. That hurting people is a moral good, but oh no, donât you dare claim youâre hurt when I hurt you.
How the fuck do you post your tears on lemmy?
Seeing harassment causes an immediate physical reaction. But knowing there are people out there spreading their harassment campaign and drag canât see them and nothing is getting better⊠Thatâs an existential dread. Thatâs what makes it feel like life isnât worth living. Drag unfortunately has object permanence and would know itâs out there if drag blocked it.
Drag blocked the transphobe in this screenshot, and that gave a respite. But drag will only be able to feel safe when drag has unblocked them and can see what horrible stuff theyâre saying to everyone else. The unknown is terrifying.
oh yeh I know that, but sadly thats something we need to live with and try to not let it affect us :/ Ive had that feeling in many different communities and in life in general and Im always anxious when joining a new community but at the end of the day the world is full of awesome people and horrible people and everything in between and its better to not think about the horrible people, its very hard to ignore but it makes life a lot easier
progress is slow and sometimes it looks like it takes a few steps back but at the end of the day things always get better and better with time, that is of course cuz theres people constantly fighting for that progress to happen but part of the fight is knowing when its better to just focus on urself đ«¶
I bet u already know all that but just wanted to give some positivity to someone that needs it :3