No, hostile is exactly the word. These are not tactless mistakes - no one is living under a rock and unaware of the conflict of gender. They’ve either digested transphobic rhetoric and accepted it or they’ve understood the obtuseness of the binary and course corrected. Frankly, if you haven’t course corrected, you deserve hostility from the trans community imo.

The only reason someone would be asking what sex you are is if they are wanting to play cloak and dagger romance, where you never state your intentions and still somehow expect to get into the other person’s pants. That’s not a healthy way to romance and never was, and is likely a big reason for why such a large proportion of people get sexually assaulted in the US.

The issue of trans people in sports is a bullshit non-issue and has been for a while. It is exclusively a talking point to try and get laymen to agree that trans people should be regulated. It’s conclusion is the policing of all women’s bodies. It’s already been debunked to the moon and back, so if you don’t give a shit enough to even look up how stupid your claim is, You don’t deserve any amount of respect or tact in this conversation.