Just came across this question on reddit and tbh…i don’t know
People have always told me(including my parents) that i am very antisocial, i don’t know how to speak, i don’t smile often, i’m shy, i look very judgemental or i’m just too egotistic…so i don’t know if i’m actually someone worth hanging out with
And no i didn’t make all these things up i have heard it all my life from my parents, teachers, friends etc.
I don’t know if its just my luck or something about my looks or the way i speak but people don’t really hold back against me
So what about y’all?
I would date, fuck, marry & kill myself
In that order, right?
I don’t see how “kill” could be in any other place than last.
That’s a good sign.
Depends on if it a clone and you’re into necrophilia.
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Absolutely. In-fact, me is who I most often hang with.
You mean after the sex?
I Hang out with myself all the time. It’s fine.
Probably not. I don’t really want to be around people who act like me. I’ve done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I’m doing a good enough job.
people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
The more times I read this, the deeper it gets.
Masking is exhausting
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
I know that feeling too well. I honestly can no longer tell when I have started doing that or how much of it was originally there
If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn’t that a win?
I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn’t who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.
But I guess it depends on what you’re editing.
Yeah, never thought if it like that. I always kinda felt like I lost something, that I conformed rather than maybe just bettering myself.
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation than how I behaved maybe ten years ago
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation
That seems positive. But it’s your call.
For me, “conforming” means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don’t feel like I’m denying myself, I feel like I’m being more considerate.
I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one’s sexuality or something like that.
It’s nothing that drastic, maybe I just find it hard to differentiate between natural change over time and stuff I pretended to have changed to better fit in
Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.
Agreed! We both like the same shows… never fighting about what to have for dinner… it’s great
I would hang out with myself and get a lot done. We’d code an app, make a podcast for antisocial people, and plant trees.
We’d agree to use the same encrypted messenger.
I’ve never been good at socializing and it just makes me exhausted.
We’d agree to use the same encrypted messenger.
You’ve revealed the real reason we need cloning technology. It would be glorious.
Yeah, I’d hang myself.
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Oh “hang out”.
No.One-on-one? Sure, I’m hilarious.
In a group? No. I’m an attention hog, I don’t need the competition.
Maybe use the opportunity to audit your behavior. Give others some room and shit. Could be a thing.
Yes indeed. Not to be braggy but I’m super friendly and fun and loving.
And humble!
Oh yeah for sure. I’d have sex with myself too
Yeah. I would. I’ve been asking myself that for a long time and I’ve tried to become someone I would get along with.
♥️
I wouldn’t initiate or invite, but if I just happen to be in the same room with myself it would be fine. It would be mostly quiet and we do our own thing, or the occasional silly philosophical or metaphorical discussions but probably nothing real or deep. Or maybe it’ll be a free therapy session, having 2 brains figure out my emotions
No. Spending time around people different from myself offers me different perspectives, interesting conversations etc.
Hanging out with someone exactly the same would be like living in an echo chamber with a yes man.
I would love to hangout with myself. I’m quiet, calm, and introspective IRL.
I don’t have any friends because I’m disappointed in people my own age. I’d hang out with people 20-30 years older than me, but they’re all dead soooo…
