• FluyOnTheWall@lemmynsfw.com
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    2 个月前

    So, from your other comments you seem to enjoy this pain(?). I’ve always found that fascinating. I get why people enjoy the pain from impact play or even clamps and similar things, but how do you eroticise pain from being in an uncomfortable position?

    I’d love if you could talk about that a little bit. :)

    • Warl0k3@lemmy.worldOP
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      2 个月前

      Oh sure! I think the big difference here is between people who get off on pain as an act of submission (much more common) and true ‘masochism’ (hurt me enough and I’ll cum). I do both, but one is a learned social dynamic that’s a great deal of fun and one’s more of a brain-wiring thing. That, plus I’m pretty autistic and have always had a atypical relationship with pain add up to “Built different, but not in a snooty way”.

      • FluyOnTheWall@lemmynsfw.com
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        2 个月前

        Thanks so much for your answer! :)

        I find the “hurt me enough and I’ll cum” interesting. All masochists I’ve talked to wouldn’t exactly get off at the dentist - that’s also my experience with pain. Is that different for you?

        Please tell me to bugger off if I’m being too forward here.

        • Warl0k3@lemmy.worldOP
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          2 个月前

          (Oh you’re fine! Obviously I just hate talking about kink…)

          “Hurt me = cum” is admittedly a bit of an oversimplification on my part: context does matter (if your dentist hauled off and kissed you in the middle of a procedure you’d probably be more confused than turned on) for example, but more relevant is the type of pain - oral stuff doesn’t do it for me (okay, it does, but not the kind of pain you get at the dentist), but shutting my hand in a drawer or really bashing myself on a shelf super can, to the point it makes being clumsy in public really awkward sometimes. You get used to it, sure, but it’s still more of a brain wiring thing than a contextual thing.

          • FluyOnTheWall@lemmynsfw.com
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            2 个月前

            The type of pain being relevant makes a lot of sense. I guess that goes for all stimuli - just because I like fairly noisy and repetitive music doesn’t mean I enjoy listening to construction noise.

            Does it have to be events of pain or can it be continuous? Is predicament pain like in the picture enough to make you cum?

            I find the thought of you hitting your shin or something and having to suppress a moan very charming, by the way. :)