Inspired by a conversation with another Lemmitor, how rough is too rough for you?
Bondage, binding, impact play or is a little hair pulling and a spank you’re limit?
Of course, everyone has different limits, and everything should be discussed and consented too beforehand and there’s no such thing as too little or too much when all parties are consenting and agreed upon.
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I don’t like serious pain, like blood and torture type play, but I like spanks that hurt, getting slapped in the face, and pretty much not limit to how rough a man is inside me. getting carry fucked by two guys is probably the roughest I’ve gotten it, I mean that and the whole session. 10/10
Face slapping can be an absolutely beautiful thing when done right. The red cheeks, the tears, the look of submitting in someone’s eyes.
fuck yeah, I’m into cnc, idk if I’m the best actor but I love getting facefucked until I tear up and just run with that 😂
I’ve had three very successful cnc sessions, one in a pub toilet that I still think about regularly. It’s one of those kinks people judge you for, but I am what I am
I think men get judged more cuz there’s a lot of rapists tbh lol. But almost everyone I’ve done it with were actually pretty sweet guys, like I wouldn’t have expected. I only get judged when there’s two cocks in me and they call me names but I feel like that doesn’t count
Oh definitely, some people see it as a pass to do what the fuck you want, and those people are called dicks. In my opinion, the sub should always be in control with how far if goes with safe words and communication before hand. I’d never lay a, hand on a woman in anger or entitlement. But with consent I’d choke you, slap the shit out of you, and force a load down your throat while your eyes run with tears and you fight for breath 🤷🏻♂️
Oh all of those have immediate consent. thats the shit that gets me so fcking wet. I love trying to pull back but im not even close to strong enough so I just gag and swallow the best i can <3
No scars please. But if I shed no tears it wasn’t a proper spanking
It depends mostly on the mood, usually I’m not a fan of marks that last more than a couple hours, I could be persuaded to provide or receive them but I would need some convincing, specially to provide them.
anything that draws blood or causes a permanent mark/injury is off-limits for me
My ideal level of marking after giving impact play or biting is light to medium bruising (yellow, with a bit of purple in the middle). Sometimes we will reach the level of bigger purple bruises. Regardless, my partners and I all appreciate the marks as sexy reminders in the following days.
I don’t always need to get tears from my partners, but if we get to that level, I am happy. Tears can come from more intense pain, or they could just need some light slapping if the emotional vibe is right.
About the most I’d give would be some medium spanking and light hair pulling. Couldn’t bring myself to treat a women to harsher than that
We’re down for most things, but pain other than light is a shared no go. Anything over tight nipple pinching, medium whipping and spanking, is not for us. Of course it’s just a matter of taste, but we like sex as a way to feel good, and inflicting or receiving (true) pain feels like the absolute opposite
100 percent understand where you’re coming from, a bit more than light is way too much for some people, and for others it’s a must.
My limits are hairpulling and choking :3 other than that spanking, bondage, and knives are all still on the table lol
talk about a edge case. or a case of edges?
idk, but that’s certainly some edge play advertising 😅
I’ve never played with knives, I turned down the opportunity when it was offered just incase but it is intriguing.
Choking when done right can be amazing, both receiving and giving, but I can totally understand why it’s a limit for a lot of people
Yeah choking is just something that makes me uncomfortable :3
Generally I don’t have many limits beyond the ones mentioned tho
Yeah I get that
Do you usually lean all the way sub or do you have a dom side too?
Like 95% towards sub :3. I do dom sometimes, but it’s quite rarely
I’d say I’m the same ratio, but the oppisite way. I used, to be 100 percent dominant but I have started leaning into a more submissive side as of late, and quite enjoying it
Funny thing is I actually started on the dom side, before pivoting hard to sub, and then dipping back slightly into dom lol :3
Choking is extremely dangerous, and it’s important that anyone who wants to do it really really really reads up on how to do it “safely” (you are not eliminating risk.)
It’s just so weird how it’s almost normalized in sex, when it’s far more dangerous than spanking, whipping, flogging, piercing, fire play, cupping, bondage, blood play, cold branding, electro……
It’s sorta like intox in that the most harmful “kinky” sexual practices seem to be mainstream (look at mainstream porn)
The only time I’ve actually cum from vaginal penetration, or really experienced an orgasm from something someone else has done to me was from being flogged to the point of bleeding in a fucking machine at maximum speed while being choked.
It really depends on a bunch of factors. The person giving me the pain has to enjoy it, has to help me get to the appropriate headspace and also has to know how to administer pain in a way that I can trust they know what they are doing. I had a dom for many years that refused to do warmups, and that just sucked all the time.
I’ve been penetrated vaginally with knives and wartenberg wheels. I’ve invited men over to misgender me, choke me with a belt, piss on me, beat me until I bruised and bled… but they start with showing me that they know how to flog properly (watch for backsplash and kidney hits) and work up from there.
But I also hate receiving oral sex, biting, and anal. Those are all “too rough” for me.
I’ve been described in the past as a ‘pleasure dom’ and I think that sums me up perfectly. Do I enjoy administrating pain to a crying sub? Fuck yes. Is that what it it’s all about? No.
It’s about both parties getting maximum pleasure from an act that most of society would be appaled by, and that means a good long conversation before hand, laying the ground work for what a sub is looking for and what they enjoy, do your partner who didn’t do ‘warm ups’ as you put it, when that’s what you want, doesn’t make sense to me. To me, it’s a deeply intimate thing when a woman allows me use of her body and mind for sexual gratification, and should be appreciated.
Love the username, by the way 👌
