I have a friend who lives on the West coast of the US who refers to me as “buddy” a lot, and I don’t mention it, but it gives me the ick (she knew me pre-transition). I think she just uses it like a gender-neutral word for anyone (the way “dude” and “bro” ca be used sometimes), but I’m triggered, lol 😅
In public / with people who never knew me before transition, people will often refer to me and whoever I’m with (they’re usually women) as “ladies” (ironically my sister-in-law hates how often she is called “ladies” when she’s around me, lol).
On the phone or individually people often refer to me as “dear”. In the South, I got a lot more “sweetie”, “honey”, and even “sweet girl” and “good girl”.
What have your experiences been like (before, during, and after transition)?
Pre-transition: “bro”, “dawg”, “bruh”, “bruu”, “broseph”, “dude” from my friends, endearingly and ironically (I assume) since I’ve always been effeminate. From strangers mostly just “hey! you!” Some people said “brother” unironically and 🤮 unfriended instantly
Currently: when I’m alone I get “buddy” and “sir”, which is weird because basically nobody referred to me as sir pre-transition. But besides that, there’s a lot less direct references to my gender. When I’m with other girls it’s always “ladies” at least.
I hope to someday pass, sounds nice
Yeah, welcome to getting older. I get sir’ed and m’amed about 50-50 now depending what I’m wearing. Before that, I frequently got “big guy” (I’m kinda short) 🤮