• JohnBrownNote [comrade/them, des/pair]@hexbear.net
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    11 months ago

    t’s way easier to think about how hard it is to interact with potential dates and all the things that could go wrong, then it is to think about all the times you’ve successfully interacted with humans (with dating intentions or otherwise) and it turned out fine or even fantastic.

    one reason it’s so much easier is the frequency.

    and “fine” isn’t good enough when you’re looking for something deeper than the perfunctory “hey how you doing?” that our shitass society decided to make a greeting despite the fact that nobody who ever said that wants to hear the real answer.

    • janus2@lemmy.sdf.org
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      11 months ago

      i’ve started using “hey there” and “heyo” specifically to avoid the wasted syllables of “howareyoufinethankshowboutyou”

      at least “sup” works w/ close friends who know to just reply “sup” also :]

    • bigboopballs [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      11 months ago

      and “fine” isn’t good enough when you’re looking for something deeper than the perfunctory “hey how you doing?” that our shitass society decided to make a greeting despite the fact that nobody who ever said that wants to hear the real answer.

      fucking right!