i do think it’s better to just avoid the term patriarchy and refer directly to toxic masculinity though, otherwise it’s very easy for people to just immediately roll their eyes and ignore what you say.
As if it isn’t easy with toxic masculinity. Even better, some get angry because they think it means masculinity itself is toxic and isn’t just referring to toxic form or aspects of it
i do think it’s better to just avoid the term patriarchy and refer directly to toxic masculinity though, otherwise it’s very easy for people to just immediately roll their eyes and ignore what you say.
As if it isn’t easy with toxic masculinity. Even better, some get angry because they think it means masculinity itself is toxic and isn’t just referring to toxic form or aspects of it
“well, the groundwater turned toxic because of the spout of literal toxic waste dumps upstream”
“OH SO ALL WATER IS TOXIC NOW FUCKING MILLENNIAL SNOWFLAKES”
“Well, there’s filters, bottled water, you could fill a giant 50 gallon drum at a friend’s house…”
“KIDS THESE DAYS JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT GOOD OLD FASHIONED WATER TASTES LIKE, IN MY DAY WE JUST ACCEPTED THE CANCER IT GAVE US”
Fair enough, but the patriarchy is the source of the toxic masculinity.