In the past, fitness (and hence its proxy parameters like height and other beauty standards) correlated to the survivability of your bloodline. So it makes sense that people are programmed, to a certain degree, to admire things like tallness.
Nowadays because of technology the correlation no longer exists, or at the very least it is much diminished. But the programming is still there right in our DNA, so as a people we should artificially override this natural instinct because it no longer serves a purpose.
Yep I live in the Netherlands as a 5’6” guy. So many insecure short women here who only want men that are 2 meters all. My height is so much more of an issue with women who are shorter than me than women who are my same height or slightly taller.
I’ve literally never heard of a woman talking about “I don’t date men under X height” in my entire life.
Then again I’d never even talk with a woman like that in the first place.
I’ve certainly noticed the trend of smaller girls always gravitating towards taller men, but nothing so silly as “I don’t date small men”. As a small guy myself, I actually dated a few tall girls without issue, and happily married to a lady two inches taller than me.
As I always say : my height isn’t the dimension you’re gonna care about, once we are lying down.
I’m 5’3 and have dated taller girls but I’ve seen them get shit from their friends for being with a short guy. They’d say it right in front of me too. Some people really are assholes about it.
This probably comes from Tinder, where people explicitly state their preferences. I also don’t know anyone in real life who talks about that. These are two very different environments. But keep in mind that romantic and sexual interests are not always conscious choices. People might not even be aware of them, yet your height can still affect their desire to be with you (among many other things).
Preferences are bullcrap most of the time anyways. Only truly shallow people go completely off of looks and are looking for a 100% match to them. Had seen plenty of bios saying stuff like “I’m crazy about tall men with beards”. Sent a message saying “how bout short men with beards?” And the response was “aye, I can do that” directly referencing lotr lol
Never thought about it this way, since I’ve never used dating apps. That makes sense, though. Thanks for the insight.
And I agree about unconscious choices; that’s why I mentioned small girls with huge guys. The stereotype is so common, yet rarely, when I asked, were the girls even aware of it. My money has always been on daddy issues for this particular one.
That weird American obsession over men’s height.
What?
Unfortunately not just America. Heightism is also prevalent in a big part of Asia.
This is most likely one of the quirks brought to you by Survival of the Fittest rule. Thanks, evolution.
Don’t blame evolution for some peoples’ short sightedness
I see what you did there, despite evolution.
Well, tallness surely would be a preferable criteria back then! To a certain extent, it is a proxy parameter for fitness.
I just think we can actually use evolution to explain a lot of things that we do, it doesn’t mean we should do it.
In an evolutionary context, what does “should” mean?
In the past, fitness (and hence its proxy parameters like height and other beauty standards) correlated to the survivability of your bloodline. So it makes sense that people are programmed, to a certain degree, to admire things like tallness.
Nowadays because of technology the correlation no longer exists, or at the very least it is much diminished. But the programming is still there right in our DNA, so as a people we should artificially override this natural instinct because it no longer serves a purpose.
Exists in Australia too lol
In Europe too. Pretty sure it exists everywhere, just like other beauty standards.
Yep I live in the Netherlands as a 5’6” guy. So many insecure short women here who only want men that are 2 meters all. My height is so much more of an issue with women who are shorter than me than women who are my same height or slightly taller.
I mean, if you’re not over 6’, are you even from the Netherlands? /lh
well my genes are from one of the former colonies. My short stature will tell you which colony that is.
Sorry I’m not that educated on the Dutch colonies. I only know about Suriname.
I’ve literally never heard of a woman talking about “I don’t date men under X height” in my entire life. Then again I’d never even talk with a woman like that in the first place.
I’ve certainly noticed the trend of smaller girls always gravitating towards taller men, but nothing so silly as “I don’t date small men”. As a small guy myself, I actually dated a few tall girls without issue, and happily married to a lady two inches taller than me.
As I always say : my height isn’t the dimension you’re gonna care about, once we are lying down.
Im dying
I’m 5’3 and have dated taller girls but I’ve seen them get shit from their friends for being with a short guy. They’d say it right in front of me too. Some people really are assholes about it.
they may not say it out loud, but I think there’s quite a few women that prefer taller men
besides, there’s nothing wrong with having such preferences, as long as you don’t denigrate the people who don’t fit your preferences
This probably comes from Tinder, where people explicitly state their preferences. I also don’t know anyone in real life who talks about that. These are two very different environments. But keep in mind that romantic and sexual interests are not always conscious choices. People might not even be aware of them, yet your height can still affect their desire to be with you (among many other things).
Preferences are bullcrap most of the time anyways. Only truly shallow people go completely off of looks and are looking for a 100% match to them. Had seen plenty of bios saying stuff like “I’m crazy about tall men with beards”. Sent a message saying “how bout short men with beards?” And the response was “aye, I can do that” directly referencing lotr lol
Never thought about it this way, since I’ve never used dating apps. That makes sense, though. Thanks for the insight.
And I agree about unconscious choices; that’s why I mentioned small girls with huge guys. The stereotype is so common, yet rarely, when I asked, were the girls even aware of it. My money has always been on daddy issues for this particular one.
some people just like taller people. I like tall women for instance. no need to put each other down over it.
And you know, the rest of the western world.
We only use metric to seem taller. 186cm (and counting)
Thanks to America