I feel similarly to @ashinadash@hexbear.net. Personally, I spent a few years stealth and doing everything I could to cut being trans out of my life and it only led to the one of the hardest situations I’ve ever had to deal with. On a less uniquely me problem, it also left me so alienated when talking to cis people and even more so when talking to trans people. It felt like I could never be truly honest with everyone. I hated that. Anyway, I do pass now but I don’t ever try to hide the fact that I’m trans. It’s something I’m proud of and, given the chance to be cis or trans and live another life, I’d pick being trans 10/10 times again