As a Romanian I want to tell everyone “you’re welcome, world”.
Thank you for this and also for all the delicious Italian food.
Don’t let the Italians know that our version of their dishes is better, they’ll start throwing hands in 2 seconds flat.
The women of the world (or at least this woman and my friends) thank you!!!
As much as I’m glad that Andrew Tate is facing criminal charges, I think we need to address the root cause of our societal ills. Tate isn’t the cause but rather a symtpom.
We really need to step back and ask ourselves why somebody so brazenly misogynistic has attracted a following of millions and has become a role model to teenage boys especially.
I can explain exactly why, because we’ve created a growing social underclass of men who cannot earn a living, cannot find a romantic partner, cannot live fulfilling lives, and anybody who they turn to either mocks them, fobs them off, or give them false platitudes, which is why they turn to toxic masculinity and the Manosphere for guidance.
The reality is that inceldom is largely an economic issue that has resulted from decades of stagnated wages which have disproportionately affected men, because despite our best efforts to create an egalitarian society, we still overwhelmingly find men unattractive if they are not the strong hunter-gatherers and providers that our biology has been conditioned over millions of years to find physically attractive. Our biology has not caught up to the millennia of societal progress we’ve made because evolution is a much slower process.
Hmm, I don’t think I’m with you. You say men are incels because they’re poor and can’t find a girl. From what I’ve seen, they can’t find a girl because of deeply rooted, misogynistic beliefs that turn people off. If also like to see your citation for wage stagnation affecting men more than women, because every study I’ve seen says the wage gap has stayed the same or widened in the last few years. I know many, many men who aren’t the strong hunter gatherer type and have loving wives or girlfriends. The difference is those guys aren’t assholes.
It goes far beyond just being poor. Wealth inequality is just one piece of the puzzle, albeit a massive one.
There are also a lot of other factors like how social media is poisoning mental health, physical and mental healthcare being expensive enough to outright bankrupt many families, the fact that rather than address these issues or limit gun ownership, American lawmakers instead think putting children through active shooter drills and locking down schools with more security than an international airport is the solution to deal with an epidemic of school shootings.
Even among nations with relatively lax gun laws, you almost never see public shootings, let alone ones on similar levels to Columbine, Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, etc
These are all legitimate complaints.
they can’t find a girl because of deeply rooted, misogynistic beliefs that turn people off
People aren’t born with misogynistic beliefs. They also aren’t taught them in school.
also like to see your citation for wage stagnation affecting men more than women
I’m not going to google search for you, but it’s pretty easy to see that wage stagnation affects men more because traditionally, men are expected to be the provider for the household and women have traditionally had the option of not starting a career and just finding a man instead. I’m not saying that women are not affected, but they have an economic “out” that men generally don’t have.> I know many, many men who aren’t the strong hunter gatherer type and have loving wives or girlfriends. The difference is those guys aren’t assholes.
I know many, many men who aren’t the strong hunter gatherer type and have loving wives or girlfriends. The difference is those guys aren’t assholes.
I’m willing to bet that they also have stable jobs. Also, if you’re one of them of course you’d know a bunch of other men who are similar; this says nothing about a large swath of men that the grandparent comment is referring to.
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
I am not defending the manosphere, and I think that the rampant misogyny you see in these online subcultures is downright alarming.
People aren’t born with misogynistic beliefs. They also aren’t taught them in school.
I’d say it gets passed around by word-of-mouth. A lot of the problematic stuff I was exposed to earlier in life definitely came from fellow pupils at school, who likely picked it up from their families. The rise of social media only makes it easier to find problematic stuff, especially since it’s proliferated so much on TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, etc.
Social media companies are to blame for getting people hooked on this crap, and we are to blame for happily lapping it up and preaching the words of people like Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro, Sneako, etc like they’re gospel.
Tate is meant to be banned from mainstream social media, yet I see his videos all the freaking time on YouTube, Instagram, etc. And that’s because these media giants cannot be bothered to purge the thousands of affiliate accounts (linked to his MLM) that are regurgitating his content.
I’m not going to google search for you, but it’s pretty easy to see that wage stagnation affects men more because traditionally, men are expected to be the provider for the household and women have traditionally had the option of not starting a career and just finding a man instead. I’m not saying that women are not affected, but they have an economic “out” that men generally don’t have.
That, and women are generally treated more favourably in cases of family/divorce law, are able to far more easily go into modelling/adult entertainment, get far greater maternity leave rights (at least in the UK), etc.
Online dating (I am referring exclusively to the heterosexual experience and cannot speak for other experiences) is also a very good example of this. Men struggle to even get any matches or replies that aren’t from scammers, spam bots or people on the other side of the world unless they look like Ryan Gosling or Josh Hartnett, while women are inundated with matches and have to be far more selective.
Okcupid did a trend analysis of their user data and found that women rated 80% of men below-average in terms of attractiveness. This link is obviously archived, because after Okcupid got acquired by Match Group (same people who own Tinder, Match.com, Hinge, POF and a lot of other dating apps), they deleted the blog post because these kinds of statistics hurt their bottom-line.
Then again, I also subscribe to the theory that online dating is designed to be such a soul-crushing experience because how else are Match Group going to lull you into spending over triple the price of a WoW subscription on a premium account?
People aren’t born with any beliefs. What’s your explanation for racism, homophobia, fascism, and other hateful views and behavior? People learn that stuff by their environment growing up, and there’s an awful lot of toxic masculinity.
And you’re argument about poverty and wage stagnation would make more sense if there weren’t so many poor people in happy marriages.
No, I hear your argument, but it doesn’t seem to hold water to me. The simpler answer is that some men are taught to believe shitty things growing up. Those shitty things lead to shitty behaviors that cause people not to be around them. The worst ones are the ones who believe men should be dominant over women, but are also timid or introverted, making them angry pressure cookers.
I think his point was that it’s ok for a woman to not earn much without it impacting her attractiveness to men, while the reverse isn’t true. There is a reason why rich millionaire falling in love with poor woman is a romance novel trope while not so much the other way around.
Finances are part of the attraction in a male if looking for actual relationships. You ain’t gonna impress a woman flipping burgers at McD while men on the other hand don’t care what a woman’s job is if she’s pretty and fun to be around.
I understood the point, but my counter was that there are loads of poor people in living relationships. Are there women who aren’t interested in a man who isn’t “successful?” Absolutely, just like there are men who aren’t interested in a woman who doesn’t look like a supermodel. But is it too the point where, if you aren’t a wealthy man, you can’t get a date or find love? No, that’s bullshit.
And you’re argument about poverty and wage stagnation would make more sense if there weren’t so many poor people in happy marriages.
This doesn’t invalidate the argument at all. Of course it’s not a all-or-nothing situation. Elliot Rodger was from a wealthy family and had plenty of economic prospects.
The simpler answer is that some men are taught to believe shitty things growing up. Those shitty things lead to shitty behaviors that cause people not to be around them.
This is not the simpler answer because Andrew Tate’s following is a relatively new phenomenon. People hear a LOT of things growing up; what sticks with them is a product of their environment. Something like this would not have caught on in the 80s or 90s, even if the zeitgeist was more misogynistic than it is today. I’d wager every man has some kind of misogynistic influence growing up, but what matters is whether they take that to heart. When the economic situation is dire (they know they will never attain the traditional ideal of a provider) it becomes really easy to blame the “other.”
This is not the simpler answer because Andrew Tate’s following is a relatively new phenomenon.
The age of social media influencers is also a relatively new phenomena. Tate realized he could tap into all those angry pressure cookers to make money. He posed as something he wasn’t, renting cars and places to make him look rich and paying women to pretend to be infatuated with him to give credence that his brand of misogyny makes men successful with women. And it worked. How would one do that 50 years ago?
I’m an old guy, and I knew incel types when I was a kid, but there wasn’t an easily accessible community of people telling them that their beliefs were valid. Instead of telling them that their trouble was that they weren’t a big enough asshole, the people around them told them to tone it down.
the “strong hunter gatherer type” of life died out centuries ago.
those who want to live as “strong hunter gatherer” due to their “because traditionally” mindset should either join https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hunter-gatherer#Modern_hunter-gatherer_groups or give up civilization and live their life in the wild.if “because traditonally” thinking is creating incels, then these men should choose to get professional therapy to change their mindset rather than choosing toxic masculinity and becoming incels.
I’d love to see a therapist about my mental health.
Unfortunately, I live in the UK, where there is a several-years-long waiting list to get help on the NHS, and where every private therapist is oversubscribed and not taking any bookings.
Literally the only option for people like me is BetterHelp, and they’re basically the Uber/Lyft of mental healthcare, in the sense that they don’t even bother to ensure that licensed and qualified individuals are on their service. They are such a shady and scandal-ridden company.
Imagine how it is in the United States where healthcare costs are prohibitively expensive and the mere thought of universal healthcare is anathema…
I can’t agree with that. Being poor is not an excuse to be a shitbag. A lot of those guys aren’t even trying to change anything, they put all the blame on corporations as if it somehow makes their behavior justified, and then spend their days on incel forums.
They didn’t say it was an excuse. They didn’t defend being a shitbag. They offered an explanation. You may disagree with it, but you’re not talking about the same thing here.
Sorry, I’m currently one of those dudes who doesn’t have a romantic partner and doesn’t live what others would call a “fulfilling life”. I haven’t fucking decided that Andrew Tate or any of a thousand others are the guiding star of my life, nor do I feel I ever will. This idea of “society’s to blame for incels” is pretty bad even on its face - most of these guys are told by these influencers (or their cultists) that they deserve not only a happy, prosperous life, but they shouldn’t even have to actively work for it. According to this philosophy, they shouldn’t have to go out and actively seek romance, women should be flocking to them in droves. As this does not happen, something must be fundamentally wrong with society - which is why a lot of these types also wind up spouting fascist rhetoric, and eventually fall into white supremacist pablum.
This sounds like a list of excuses to be a fucking shitbag. You can’t make money? Don’t be a bitch and get a job. IF YOU CAN’T SUPPORT YOURSELF that is not a woman’s problem. That is your problem. Is modern society too hard for you? Pretty sure humans have thousands of years of evolution dealing with actual existential threats of starvation and surviving the elements that most of humanity overcame. Now your bills are too much and it’s driving you to beating the fuck out of women? Fuck off with that shit.
Fuck yeah we can do a lot better as a species, but with some actual perspective of the majority of humans time on earth we have it pretty damn peachy. Sure as fuck aren’t victims of some atrocious shit that justifies any of that redpill bullshit, at least on a systemic level.
People are becoming incels because a bunch of idiots got ahold of the internet and gave themselves a name and a platform to echochamber in. That is it. It would have happened, much worse, in any other time in history if they were able to organize.
This is a good take. There are many men who are stuck and undersupported so they are turning to dark places. That is the issue. This was just a jackass using them for fame.
Unfortunately it’s a take that I’ve been shadowbanned from posting on Reddit.
Someone probably put an automoderator filter that automatically removes my comment if it contains the word ‘incel’, or any other word they think is problematic.
It’s actually fucking liberating that I can more freely speak my mind on Lemmy… And this isn’t even a free speech platform.
Goes to show what a clown fiesta Reddit has become.
because we’ve created
“we”? no, not “we”. men who feel entitled to being treated like they’re god’s gift to life by virtue of having a dick have created it for themselves.
These men choose to turn to toxic masculinity and to the manosphere (an echo chamber of toxic masculinity) rather than choose therapy and self-improvement because they are too selfish and lazy to work on improving themselves and their lives. They want a rich fulfilling life handed to them on a platter and fawned on by adoring slaves who they should be free to abuse at will.
They choose to be incels because they feel they can get away with treating women as lesser beings. And when they face any consequence for their actions they paint themelves as victims belonging to a social underclass, when they’re anything but.
Nah man incels are just losers and Tate is just the same. I talk to my male friends all the time about difficulties I’m having I don’t need to blame women for them. We haven’t created s growing social underclass of men, some men are just bitching and thinking this is targetted when everyone is struggling.
This reaks of manosphere bullshit.
Nah man incels are just losers and Tate is just the same.
I don’t think brushing away the issue like this is particularly helpful. It’s a statistical truth that men are over-represented in a long list of bad settings, from victims of violence, to drug abuse, suicide, homelessness, unemployment etc. Additionally, the past ≈30 years there has been a trend of a decreasing proportion of men having several partners throughout their life, and an increasing proportion of men never finding a long-time partner. And men are to a larger and larger degree under-performing in education compared to women.
Furthermore, like you say: Everyone is struggling. The struggling disproportionally is disproportionally difficult to handle for those that are over-represented in the statistics mentioned above.
I definitely think we have a societal issue where certain men are being marginalised, or at least put in a position where it is understandable that they feel marginalised. We know very well that humans in general, when they feel pushed into a corner, tend to lash out in some way.
What I’m saying doesn’t defend their actions, but provides an explanatory model for why they are acting the way they are. Because if nothing else, we as a society need to do something about the increasing number of men acting that way.
Nah man incels are just losers and Tate is just the same.
This does not serve as an explanation for why these people are acting as losers, or what we can do about it, and is thus not a very constructive standpoint to take.
Oh yeah, they absolutely are losers and the manosphere is not to be trusted. Incel, red pill, MGTOW, etc rhetoric is dangerous.
I talk to my male friends all the time about difficulties I’m having I don’t need to blame women for them.
Some don’t even have that support group.
Not having that group is a different issue, that these types blame on others. They don’t look to fix they look for who to blame. It can be difficult to make friends, but it’s nigh impossible if you’re not trying. Addressing a negative attitude and trying something new is the way to go. Join a gym, a book club or an anything else. Socialise and adapt.
I absolutely hate the grip these losers have on these people.
It’s an economic issue in as much as this is what capitalism promotes and exemplifies. Psychopaths and sociopaths rise to the top. And all the other haters fangirl over them for doing it.
Some of the happiest most satisfied people I know are poor. They just don’t have the massive entitlement to other people’s things.
inceldom is largely an economic issue
that’s such a reach. women are lagrely more economically disadvantaged, specially when you consider that men are paid more, are not straved off of promotions due to their gender, are not discriminated because they are women. rich/well-off incels exist, they are and will remain incels despite their financial status or attractiveness. they are incels because of their misogynistic beliefs (among other horrible traits).
the internet and tate has amplified the voices of this community since they are able to congregate anonymously and with no repercussions.
And to think, all of this happened because he got owned by Greta Thunberg.
I believe that was just coincidental timing. Not complaining though, because it made it all much more exciting.
It wasn’t just timing. His reply to Greta was what led the Romanian police to know he was in Romania and close to which pizza restaurant.
I did read that that was actually a coincidence, and they already knew he was in the country. But reality is often stranger than fiction, so who knows.
She becoming a mythical force. Humiliating the most powerful for talking not doing (and getting them to do at least more, if not enough). And single handedly taking down Creepy Tate.
I’m happy to be reading about this on a 3rd party app for a growing redddit alternative. Feels right.
I had never heard of this guy before the most recent debacle and I’m on the internet a lot. So at least it’s good that his reach wasn’t really as far as it might seem.
It’s easy to get stuck in a filter bubble though.
I agree. I personally don’t have anything filtered out though. I just don’t use Twitter, which I take it is where most of the talk about this guy was. I also really specifically used (until recently) /r/all to make sure I’m getting what is hopefully a representative survey of what other people care about and are talking about and I also just check the regular news. It’s important to me to get a well rounded view on things.
I’ve definitely heard about most of the other edge lords though. Chowder, eyebrows mcgoo, the one that looks like a hipster bartender, and the one that looks like a hobo with dead eyes.
I had very similar use patterns and had only ever heard of Andrew Tate through my YouTube recommendations
Not for his content but for content describing how gross and wrong he is
So that’s a little hopeful nugget
What app? I’m looking for a good android app :)
Jerboa for Lemmy is what I’m using!
Couldn’t happen to a nicer piece of trash.
Finally. Wish his influence would crumble to dust too.
Is there a /r/upliftingnews equivalent here yet?
Lollll I absolutely love that it was because of Greta Thunberg that he got caught.
Here’s a quote from an article:
On Tuesday, Mr Tate, a former kickboxer and influencer who has been banned from numerous social media services for violent and misogynistic rhetoric, tagged Ms Thunberg in a Twitter post, asking for her email address so he could “send a complete list of my car collection and their respective enormous emissions”.
The tweet also featured Mr Tate filling up a gas-guzzling Bugatti supercar at the pump.
The following day, the climate activist responded with a tweet of her own, replying, “Yes, please do enlighten me. email me at smalldickenergy@getalife.com.”
He then took a picture of himself with a pizza box, which then led the Romanian authorities to where he was hiding, and was arrested.
Fuck yeah.
TIL getalive.com actually exits and is one funniest sites i’ve ever.
I hope people managing that domain can give Greta the email address.
I’ll celebrate at conviction.
One more grifter preying on young men has fallen. This is a nice day.
Also 666th upvote
Preying on young women and young men. Probably being enslaved and trafficked is worse for the women than it was for the young men dragged into his sphere of influence. Thoroughly evil man.
Ehh let’s wait until after conviction before we celebrate.
Good. Fuck that guy.
They say that if you can’t say something good, you shouldn’t say anything at all.
Andrew Tate has been indicted and will face trial on rape and human trafficking charges in Romania. Good.
Hopefully he gets convicted. The evidence is ostensibly damning, but sleazeballs like him always seem to manage to avoid real repercussions.
rip bozo
“Where corruption is accessible to everybody.”
The boy must be a nobody.
