• ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Option #3:

    Same as option #2, but replace BPD with autism, and less mental health issues once she figures out she doesn’t need to pretend to be normal.

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          4 months ago

          I dont think its weird to find autism attractive. Depending on who you ask, it might be called a disorder or just a normal trait. It’s the same way that any trait can be attractive.

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            Well, I didn’t find a real, good definition of ‘fetishizing’ but, if we agree on the one I’ll provide below, you should be able to answer for yourself in this and future cases.^1

            Fetishization is the choice to extremely, positively overweight one or more intrinsic qualities of a person or group of people, such that there is a sexual or romantic preference of a person or group of people based on that innate trait, irrespective of their overall character as a person.

            Autism is weird for this definition because, while it is an inherent facet of a person, it does have a large effect on how a person grows up. This obviously shapes their character.

            As an experiment, take your hypothetical dream person. A second party is a necessity for mental grounding. If you can find another person to assist, have them swap out character traits (social, personal, mental, etc.) until you find a point you’d no longer find the hypothetical dream person appealing.

            Anyway, hope you can do some self-study and find that answer.

            ^1 If you don’t agree, then we’re piss outta luck and I’m gonna leave.

            • Going with that definition, I don’t fetishize autistic women because my perception of a women’s sexiness is not affected by neurotype. It’s the relationship and connection that I would value with an autistic woman over others.

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          4 months ago

          I don’t think that is fetishising. That’s preference, fetishising meand reducing someone/something to a sexual object

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            That’s just the more common usage. It doesn’t just apply to relationships or people, but also hobbies and professions.