I don’t think caring about other people is the problem. I think this particular manifestation is of dubious value, and in fact annoys enough people that someone made a website asking you to stop doing it.
Furthermore, if “Hey man what’s up? Do you remember if there’s lunch provided at this meeting?” is going to push them over the edge, then they’re so close to a breaking point already that anything is going to do it.
I think its perfectly reasonable to make no assumptions about someone’s wellbeing (you are checking the status of their wellbeing, not assuming that they are unwell).
I don’t really like seeing caring about others or folks feeling down as a ‘problem’.
I don’t think caring about other people is the problem. I think this particular manifestation is of dubious value, and in fact annoys enough people that someone made a website asking you to stop doing it.
Furthermore, if “Hey man what’s up? Do you remember if there’s lunch provided at this meeting?” is going to push them over the edge, then they’re so close to a breaking point already that anything is going to do it.
I think it’s condescending to assume people are so unwell that they can’t answer a text message without being mothered.
I think its perfectly reasonable to make no assumptions about someone’s wellbeing (you are checking the status of their wellbeing, not assuming that they are unwell).
wow, okay…