Like, you just look weird if you sitting by yourself (example: waiting at a bus stop) and just stairing into space, so like its basically social expectation to be on your phone when you are by yourself.

Plus, just feels like if you don’t have a phone on you, you are missing a lot of information (access to the internet, maps, etc.) that you might need in case you get lost or something.

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    I don’t even know how I survived the 90s. When you were waiting for the bus the most entertaining thing you could do was stare at your shoes or throw a rock at the stop sign

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      The boredom was real, but also like…thoughts would turn over in undirected and sometimes fruitful ways, too. At least for me. My mind does far less just “idling” these days, and while too much of that is a real kind of misery, I think some is probably useful.

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        Or a handheld… Those ones still exist… Thankfully.

        Even nowadays I don’t feel “entertained” when forcing myself to use the smartphone when I am in waiting situation outside…

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      You had to pick up rocks on the way in case there weren’t any good ones at the bus stop. Or you’d have to ask people there if they had any spare rocks. So embarrassing.

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    I do not. I don’t feel awkward necessarily just sitting there doing nothing but I also tend to avoid situations where I am like that because I do get bored and impatient fairly easily. I also just don’t like phones. I don’t do much with mine other than the things I find very useful like calls, text messaging and maps. I much prefer my PC whenever possible.

    I’m American, and I’m 40. I didn’t have a mobile phone until I was like 19 and didn’t have a smartphone until I was probably about 28 or something.

    I understand why people would feel awkward without their phones for sure. Especially if that’s what they are used to. I used to smoke cigarettes and I remember kinda feeling silly just standing there not smoking after I quit.

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    I wouldn’t know. That hasn’t happened since I got my first phone in the 90s. It’s always with me.

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    My pockets feel unusual. Same when going out without a wallet. Constantly feel like I left them somewhere.

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    I was on the metro recently and didnt feel like using my phone. tried to zone out into space but kept feeling like people were looking at me funny, noticing I wasn’t looking down at a phone. made me feel so u comfortable I took my phone out and forced myself to use it for the next 20 mins

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        Whereas my response to that situation is to want to do anything but that. Who wants to be just another sheep squinting zombielike at a screen?? I will never get it.

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    I feel weird if I’m taking a shit and I don’t have my phone with me, forget about leaving the house without it.

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    No. I’m an 80s kid. It’s kind of nice once in a while to forget it.

    I imagine people with their phone in their faces while shopping, walking their dogs, etc. must have max anxiety over even the fleeting thought of not having their precious.

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    I’m 50, old enough to remember when we didn’t have answering machines or call waiting or anything, and yet I can’t go to the kitchen to stir my tea without my phone. I’m not saying it’s good. To be fair I do read a lot of books on it though.

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    Do you feel weird/anxious if you go outside and don’t have a phone with you?

    Nope. I sometimes forget my phone at home, no big deal I seldom use it. And even when I don’t forget it I have zero social apps or games installed on it, not even email ;)

    I only use it to pass phone calls and to manage IDs and finances (and it’s only because my banks all require me to use their stupid apps, I would gladly tell them to go funk themselves but I need to be able to access my accounts).

    What I never forget and I never hesitate to use whan I have the opportunity is a pocket book, so I always have something to read (without distraction, aka no Internet) and a pocket notebook/pen so I can write stuff (without any distraction, bugs, updates or whatever…) and in both case without any worry about being tracked.

    so like its basically social expectation to be on your phone when you are by yourself.

    Is it? And then people are surprised they’re exhausted, and constantly anxious and/or angry at one another? Doom scrolling is poison for the mind and for the soul. I’d rather look around, or speak with people.

    you are missing a lot of information

    Do I? Well, so far it has not caused me much issues.

    that you might need in case you get lost or something.

    When that happens, I ask my way around to people. It sometime is a nice opportunity to start a real conversation ;)

    edit: typos and clarification.

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    I leave my phone behind now and again so I don’t feel the obligation to always be reachable, a privilege I’m sure. I don’t often get lost but I speak the local language so I can just ask a stranger if I do. I absolutely don’t find it weird if someone’s alone and not looking at a phone and don’t think anyone around me does, though I’ve never been one to care about that sort of thing anyway. I’ve intentionally removed all the timewasting apps from my phone as well, namely social media and news and all that.

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    A bit, I need it for contactless payments as in my country we use eletronic payments for almost everything

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    I only get as awkward as the distance travelled

    I’d be fine going to the mall, bit iffed since I don’t have music to accompany me

    I’d be damned if I visit hierapolis without my phone on me, fuck knows how I’ll get back if I also lose my wallet

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    About a decade ago, I fell and broke my ankle while out running.

    It was only by sheer chance that this happened around a bunch of people, and I was able to get help immediately. If I’d been out somewhere else or at a different time, I would have been absolutely fucked.

    Since that day, I never leave the house without my phone, ever.

    (if I’m hiking somewhere out of range, then I map out my route and ensure that someone else knows where I’ll be)

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      if I’m hiking somewhere out of range

      FYI, there are satalite messengers that have cheaper monthly costs than a satellite phone (they use text only, no voice calls).

      Also there are satellite personal locator beacons that have no monthly fee, so you can just keep one around in your hiking backpack. And press the emergency button if you need help. (You have to register the beacon beforehand to have it ready for use) Downside of these locator beacons compared to a satelite phone/messenger is that you cannot communicate what help you need. (Example: you can’t tell them if you got bitten by a venomous snake so they won’t know until they get to you and that might be too late)

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        I actually got a locator beacon recently.

        I can’t really justify the cost of a two-way one given how rarely I go anywhere properly remote, but the little one-button boxes make for huge peace of mind. And honestly if I get bitten I’d likley be just as fucked with or without a conversation :D