Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
No method of birth control is 100% effective (except abstinence) so it’s a good idea to use multiple methods simultaneously
The fact that he didn’t do it by himself tells you he did not wear it with any previous partners who didn’t make him. So yes, that puts his likelihood of STD rather high.
You were 100% right to make him wear one.
Anyone who says “we don’t need to use a condom” is someone who you should 100% use a condom with
Yeah always wear protection if you don’t know the person. If someone is not willing to that’s a serious red flag. Your body, your choice
Perfect answer.
Agreed. I’m a man. When I was dating last, my personal rule was “always use condoms at least the first time with a new partner, and then discuss it after that as things progress.”
Not at all. IUDs are 99% effective (at preventing pregnancy), but if you don’t wanna risk that 1% chance, that’s your decision.
Condoms also protect against STIs.
If you want them to put a condom on before they have sex with you they shouldn’t be arguing. They should either respect your boundaries, or go find someone else with boundaries that are more compatible with their desires.
IUDs are 0% effective vs. STDS. They wil prevent pregnancies 99% of the time. Let’s do some homework here.
That’s what I meant, I just expressed it poorly.
Your limits, your rules, safety first politeness second!
“Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy”
Jesus what an ignorant thing to say. Having an STD doesn’t make you a bad person or anything, it’s not a reflection on him if he did have an STD, it’s just a medical situation that requires certain precautions. So if your hooking up, then you inherently younever know so you HAVE to be safe.
Glad it wasn’t a big problem and you had fun, but what an ass.
yeah that would have ended the evening right there.
“Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?!”
Now i do.Maybe, many STDs are asymptomatic.
you get to choose what goes into your body, nobody else.
I probably would have left, a comment like that would have killed the mood. He does know he could have an STD and not even know he has one (or two)… right? He is the type that is just living on a wing and a prayer. No thanks!
When skydiving, is a backup parachute over the top?
STD’s aren’t diagnosed (mostly) just by looking at people. That’s exactly why they’re so tough to eradicate.
Wear protection and protect yourself. You did just fine here. If he is unwilling to be up to your safety needs, then he’s not worth keeping around.
“Do I look like some STD-ridden guy?”
“Well, STD-ridden guys tend to refuse condoms. That’s how they got their STDs. So you tell me.”
Personally, as a guy, I think him just questioning it is enough for you to have rejected him.
The only appropriate response to being told to use a condom is, “Of course I’m going to use a condom.”
“…um, do you have one?”
That is also an appropriate response. And if the answer is no then we are done here. Try again next time.
I always felt like it was my responsibility to have them.
“Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?”
Based on your willingness to rawdog strangers, yes.
“Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?”
