the joke answer is “go touch grass” but let’s be honest it’s not always because they’re incel types (though my guess is that’s usually it)
assorted thoughts:
most people have at least mild mental health problems and that often makes it hard to connect with people in a healthy way. i fall directly and pathetically into this category myself
fuckin capitalism profits from isolating people and dissolving community infrastructure that traditionally facilitated dating
it’s way easier to think about how hard it is to interact with potential dates and all the things that could go wrong, than it is to think about all the times you’ve successfully interacted with humans (with dating intentions or otherwise) and it turned out fine or even fantastic. even worse, we’re wired to remember negative experiences with more detail. all my horrible awkward attempts at flirting are chiseled in fuckin marble in my memory, while the times i was normal AND lucky enough for it to be reciprocated, i barely remember in comparison. :[
t’s way easier to think about how hard it is to interact with potential dates and all the things that could go wrong, then it is to think about all the times you’ve successfully interacted with humans (with dating intentions or otherwise) and it turned out fine or even fantastic.
one reason it’s so much easier is the frequency.
and “fine” isn’t good enough when you’re looking for something deeper than the perfunctory “hey how you doing?” that our shitass society decided to make a greeting despite the fact that nobody who ever said that wants to hear the real answer.
So is “sup” not a literal what’s-up then? Invariably I reply with what I am doing, because wtf else could ‘what’s up’ mean, and invariably I am doing something specific (special interest-y) that seems to kill conversations lmao
and “fine” isn’t good enough when you’re looking for something deeper than the perfunctory “hey how you doing?” that our shitass society decided to make a greeting despite the fact that nobody who ever said that wants to hear the real answer.
the joke answer is “go touch grass” but let’s be honest it’s not always because they’re incel types (though my guess is that’s usually it)
assorted thoughts:
one reason it’s so much easier is the frequency.
and “fine” isn’t good enough when you’re looking for something deeper than the perfunctory “hey how you doing?” that our shitass society decided to make a greeting despite the fact that nobody who ever said that wants to hear the real answer.
i’ve started using “hey there” and “heyo” specifically to avoid the wasted syllables of “howareyoufinethankshowboutyou”
at least “sup” works w/ close friends who know to just reply “sup” also :]
yeah those are better. honorable mention to “what’s good” for the more honest sentiment
So is “sup” not a literal what’s-up then? Invariably I reply with what I am doing, because wtf else could ‘what’s up’ mean, and invariably I am doing something specific (special interest-y) that seems to kill conversations lmao
fucking right!