• Send_me_nude_girls@feddit.de
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    So I’m past 30yo and today I tried to get back into dating. I’ve joined a discord and most of them are around the age of 20. It feels alien too me to have so many short (1 to 5 words) sentences followed by cat gifs. Not sure if I can do this. I need deeper meaning and longer sentences. :(

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      Your username is “send me nude girls” , and you’re talking about socializing for dating purposes on discord. You might be approaching this on hard mode.

      Might I suggest going out in person? Meetups, bars, shared activities, heck even tinder.

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        My username is more of a joke than anything. I get the first impression vibes though.

        You’re right about finding outside activities, I need something to build my self worth.

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      I’d recommend you filter by age, and don’t date anyone younger than 25 if you are actually looking for a relationship.

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      Good luck, it’s always tough to date past 20s

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      Discord is tricky because most of it is filled with teens. If you specifically search for 21+, 25+, 30+, etc. communities, you’ll have a much saner time in my experience. They do exist out there, but I don’t know how many are dating focused.

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          That’s fair. I feel like mostly I specifically find 18+ and 21+ communities anyway. Since I don’t want teens, 21+ is what I tend to shoot for and there are still a fair amount of them.

          Although I’ve stumbled into 25+ servers before. These are the most preferable to me because by that point most people are out of school so they are more relatable.

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          Introvert too, still managed to get a girlfriend. There is hope