my new years resolution is to get gayer. i’m pretty satisfied with the level of trans i’m on, though i might get my gender legally changed. i do want to update my wardrobe a bit (my fashion sense has evolved since i first really did that post coming out) but money is very expensive

what are all of you hoping for this year?

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netM
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    11 months ago

    My bottom surgery is in early April. I’m hoping that goes very well and I have few to no complications from it. Also hope that my boobs continue growing so they are somewhat even and are proportional to my massive frame. If not, I’ll probably set up for top surgery this year if finances allow. Imagine having DDs and still looking wonky as hell. That’s my situation :\

    I’m also secretly hoping that my mother understands why I cut contact with her. I didn’t want to, that’s for sure. But everyone I would talk to her, she would figure out a way to heavily inflame dysphoria in me causing me to spiral for a couple of days. I’ve tried explaining to her several times why she should please not do this or that, but it just would never get through. She would combat me and tell me “I’m accepting!” without truly understanding what it means to be a good ally. She also still deadnames me and misgenders me to this day…somehow. I pass in 98% of instances, so that can’t be it. Idk

    Maybe I’m asking too much of myself and the world at large this year. Who knows. We will see as time drags on.

    Also, sorry if I overshared. I have no idea where the cutoff point is for neurotypical folks.

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      11 months ago

      i hope your surgery goes well, and that your body ends up where you’d like it to! and that your mom realizes how shitty she’s been

      i don’t think that’s oversharing, but i am also a bad judge of that and am very much not neurotypical

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        10 months ago

        It’s a constant struggle to say the least. And I’m sure I’ll end up sharing when the time comes around for the surgery. This is one of the few places online where I feel safe enough to freely speak about such matters. But thank you very much. Here’s looking forward to a good 2024.